Am I overreacting?

[3DR]

Ok, so me and my gf have been dating for around 2 months now. Because of our work schedules, we are only able to see each other every Sunday, and the occasional Saturday. So, every since we've been dating, it's pretty much a given that Sunday is our "Date day". (I'm overseas teaching (Korea) and she's a local I might add)

 

Fast forward to tonight, she asks me when she can cook for me. I say this Sunday, but she says she's already made plans to meet a guy who she has been talking to online (language exchange and he supposedly has a girlfriend...he's visiting from NYC, and will leave on Monday). She hasn't known him longer than me, and it's not the fact that she's hanging out with another guy that's bothering me. She has done that a couple of times with her close guys friends, and I trust her not to do anything because I know her character and the type of person she is (only had one boyfriend her whole life (she's 25) and is very serious when it comes to her relationships (love, family, and friends).

 

It's the fact that she didn't even consider to invite me along to hang out with them as well. Although we will be together on Saturday (meeting my friends for the first time), I feel very offended that knowing Sundays are our days, she didn't consider inviting me along.

 

I brought it up with her and after doing so, she asked me if I wanted to meet him and also said I am much more important to her than he is. But I brushed it off eventually and said no as I didn't want to seem needy or insecure. Am I overreacting?

[RedDress]

Yes, I think you are overreacting a bit.

 

The moment that you asked her about it, she was very open to having you there. It's probably just a little weird because he's not really a friend, per se, but someone that she doesn't even know herself!

 

You also haven't really been dating that long, so asking her to give up every Sunday (even if it's normally been "your day" up until this point) is a little unrealistic.

 

Would you feel the same if it was a woman she was meeting? I have a feeling that there's a little bit of jealousy going on here...

[Kitkat973]

You've only been dating for two months. I wouldn't expect her to include you in every friendly outing at this point. She did offer to include you when you expressed your feelings about it, so I don't think you really have anything to worry about.

[3DR]

Yes, I think you are overreacting a bit.

 

The moment that you asked her about it, she was very open to having you there. It's probably just a little weird because he's not really a friend, per se, but someone that she doesn't even know herself!

 

You also haven't really been dating that long, so asking her to give up every Sunday (even if it's normally been "your day" up until this point) is a little unrealistic.

 

Would you feel the same if it was a woman she was meeting? I have a feeling that there's a little bit of jealousy going on here...

 

I actually just asked myself this question before you posted, and I wouldn't feel the same way, so maybe there is some insecurity and jealousy there. I guess I was more offended because like you said, it's someone she doesn't even know herself, and I felt ditched for this nobody.

 

Like I said I trust her, but yeah maybe it is some jealousy.

 

This is also my first real dating/relationship experience because I was brought up in a strict religious environment. It's seems I have a lot of learning to do