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One of my all-time favorite films is Titanic (1997). Everytime it's on TV, or some reference is made to that film, my father will always say this: "Go for it!"

 

What does "Go for it" mean, you ask? Back in 1998, shortly after the film was released, tv channel TNT did a parody of the famous "I'm flying, Jack!" scene with 2 monkeys playing Jack & Rose. Monkey-Rose said, "I feel as if I could fly!" Monkey-Jack said, "Cool go for it!" and pushed her off the bow.

 

Suffice to say, to this day my father still thinks that's one of the funniest things he's ever heard in his life. (I don't, as you may have guessed.) It annoys me beyond belief, because I love the film so much. Titanic gave me hope and happiness during one of the lowest points ever in my life.

 

The past few times he's said "Go for it!" I say back, "Look how Rosie comes to ME!" (Rosie is our dog; she doesn't like my dad very much, lol. But she constantly comes to me, and when I found out that my saying that annoyed him, I've been using it as ammo to shoot back whenever he says "Go for it!".)

 

I talked about this with my counselor today ~ she totally understood why that joke would bother/bug me. She gave me some ideas on what to say to him instead of the Rosie-comeback:

  • "That joke is old. Think up a new line."
  • "Is that the only funny thing you've ever heard in your life? That's pretty sad, you need to get out more."
  • "The title of the film is Titanic, not Go for it. Now will you let it go?"
  • "It was only funny when the monkey said it."

 

He can't seem to let that stupid "Go for it!" joke go. (That was over 12 years ago, for crying out loud!) My father isn't the most empathetic guy; I tried telling him in the past about his stupid comments, but all he said was, "Lighten up." Any comments/other comeback ideas welcome. Thanks!

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PhilliesFan001 Community Regular

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I don't mean to make your dad sound like a jerk, but if he knows it gets your goat... that's probably why he does it. I think you need to just let this roll off your back because really, this could be such a non-issue, completely, if you let it be.

 

Agreed. Although I'm not entirely sure if I understand why this bothers you so much, your father is only looking for a reaction. I suppose you could look at it two ways: 1, he's trying to get a rise out of you, so by not giving him the response he looks for, he may just get bored of it and give up. Or 2, he's just clueless and the kind of person who holds onto a "joke" for a century, not intending to hurt you. In either case, I say you just roll your eyes behind his back and try to not let it get to you so much.

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Hi Autumnrose,

 

Ha! You're like me. I'm a little bit sensitive about Titanic...you know...having watched it 3 times when it was at the movies. When people call it a chick-flick, I practically grind my teeth to dust, so as not to make a retort.

 

Your Dad is teasing you. It's a trigger every time he sees the ads. He makes his little joke which amuses him. I have a feeling the minute you grind your teeth and make a joke too, he will get bored. Or maybe he won't. He may get many years of enjoyment out of it. Sounds like you both tease each other what with the dog and all.

 

Laugh it off. Let it go. Some people will never see the majestic artistry that is Jack, Rose and Titanic. Pity them, as I secretly do

 

 

Deci xxx

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Lol are you serious? Your dad is just trying to be funny, and be a dork. If this is the biggest issue you have in your life consider yourself lucky.

Agree. Dad's do embarrassing dancing, make stupid and annoying jokes they think are 'hilarious' and usually make a fool of themselves in front of your more attractive friends, it's what dads do, it's their job.

 

I lost my dad 4 weeks ago, I'm not going to hear his funny phrases anymore, however annoying they used to make me feel at your age

 

Next time, give him a hug and tell him you love him but quit with the same line!

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I am surprised a counselor would suggest making rude comments to your dad. When he says it, just walk away. Then it is no issue.

 

How is it rude to tell him to stop making a joke that he hasn't stopped doing for 12 years? I agree with you on here that yes, he is doing it with the secret knowledge that he's trying to get to me. But he's not being funny, he's being stupid.

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Agree. Dad's do embarrassing dancing, make stupid and annoying jokes they think are 'hilarious' and usually make a fool of themselves in front of your more attractive friends, it's what dads do, it's their job.

 

I lost my dad 4 weeks ago, I'm not going to hear his funny phrases anymore, however annoying they used to make me feel at your age

 

Next time, give him a hug and tell him you love him but quit with the same line!

 

It's their job to embarrass & humiliate their kids? Not let them have an opinion or a right on how to be treated? Um, ok, that's your philosophy. And "at my age" I think I'm old enough to express myself to my father to let him know to give up a lame joke he still gets a kick out of.

 

I'm sorry you lost your father.

 

But you should all know, this lame "go for it" joke isn't the issue ~ it's the fact that he says it knowing it's hurtful & annoying. He does stuff like this ALL THE TIME, to my mother and me. He has no consideration for anyone's feelings but his own. Do you all get it now?

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It's their job to embarrass & humiliate their kids? Not let them have an opinion or a right on how to be treated? Um, ok, that's your philosophy. And "at my age" I think I'm old enough to express myself to my father to let him know to give up a lame joke he still gets a kick out of.

 

I'm sorry you lost your father.

 

But you should all know, this lame "go for it" joke isn't the issue ~ it's the fact that he says it knowing it's hurtful & annoying. He does stuff like this ALL THE TIME, to my mother and me. He has no consideration for anyone's feelings but his own. Do you all get it now?

 

 

Why not communicate that in the first place instead of getting defensive with someone who just lost her father? Parent DO makes jokes with their kids and YES that IS normal. The fact that your dad humiliates you is not. However it would have been easier to give advice if you had made it clear what the issue was and not made it about a movie. People can not read random people's minds. It is up to the person who wants advice to be clear with the issue not up to us to guess. People can not give proper advice if the problem is not clear.

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Why not communicate that in the first place instead of getting defensive with someone who just lost her father? Parent DO makes jokes with their kids and YES that IS normal. The fact that your dad humiliates you is not. However it would have been easier to give advice if you had made it clear what the issue was and not made it about a movie. People can not read random people's minds. It is up to the person who wants advice to be clear with the issue not up to us to guess. People can not give proper advice if the problem is not clear.

 

Ok, ok...you're right. I should've made it clearer that while (obviously) I hate that he's essentially insulting my movie, but also the fact that he does it knowing it's hurtful. He does that a lot; I clean his messes, cook meals and just tonight before I came back on here, he yelled at me ~ claiming that mom has been at work all day and that since I'm living at home I should cook for her. I. DO. THAT. ALL. THE. TIME. Yet he still acts like all I do is sit around the house all day doing nothing, which is total bs. He's the slob of the house & let me tell you, if it weren't for me this house would rot at the wallpaper.

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Is it really the movie joke, or are there other issues you have with your father? The fact that you're so upset over some stupid, unfunny joke he's been making about a movie you happen to like tells me either A) you're super sensitive, or B) there are underlying larger problems with him that are making you overreact a little to this specific issue.

 

Edit: What other things does he do that hurt/humiliate you? Or that you feel are inappropriate?

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The only way to get around this all though is to move out and get a life of your own. I know it is not nice what he is doing. Believe my father in no way stellar, but the only way out is to move out.

 

Agree with this. Also consider that he had to put up with a lot of things you said to him that were repetitive and/or not so nice (not because you're not a nice person but because it is typical for children/teenagers to behave that way at times.

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Agree with this. Also consider that he had to put up with a lot of things you said to him that were repetitive and/or not so nice (not because you're not a nice person but because it is typical for children/teenagers to behave that way at times.

 

Yup. I am sure I drove my parents around the BEND, and my dad used to pay me back by calling me my nickname AT HIGH SCHOOL.

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Agree with this. Also consider that he had to put up with a lot of things you said to him that were repetitive and/or not so nice (not because you're not a nice person but because it is typical for children/teenagers to behave that way at times.

 

..behave what way? I'm nothing but nice and respectful of him, yet he doesn't reciprocate one iota. (Except of course, for giving me money.) You don't even know me, I never said anything "repetitive and/or not so nice" stuff when I was a teen. Back then, I was too dull to even be worth grounding.

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