Liebherr Posted August 22, 2011 Share Posted August 22, 2011 Ok, so heres my situation. I met a girl who was a server at a restaurant. I'm a little shy around new people, so I added her on Facebook and talked to her on there, and as I got to know her better on there I was more open to talk to her in person, she have me her number on Facebook, and told me to text her sometime (and keep in mind that when I first got her on Facebook, I asked her for her number and she wouldn't give it to me, and I even gave her my number and told her to text me, but she never did, so I stopped asking for her number. She gave it to me this time without me asking for it.) Anyhow we talked via Facebook and at the restaurant and kind of got to know eachother better. She was having some problems at work, and she asked me for help with writing a letter complaining about her management. We met several times and wrote the letter, and both the times she seemed interested in me, she exerted all the signs, (openly talked about personal things, made eye contact, smiled at me, called me intelligent, talked about college, etc.) Now keep in mind we met to discuss the letter, but after we got all the business taken care of, we had some personal converations. However we never brought up the topic of dating. Anyhow a few days after we last had lunch, she put on her facebook she broke up with whoever she was dating (I don't know if this was because she met me, or not...) Anyhow, Saturday we were discussing her situation at work, and she had to get off the phone, but she texted me and told me she would call back, but never did. So later that night (about 12:45 AM) I jokingly sent her a text saying that I was going to ask her to hang out and get drinks, but she never called back so I never got the chance. Anyhow she responded within 5 minutes and invited me to a bar she was at. Well I showed up, and she expressed a great interest in me then (She was very socilable, she approached me when I first walked in and gave me a hug and numerous kisses the cheek, she got me a drink, would not take her hands off me the entire time we were together there (I put my hands around her as well, as I felt if I didn't she might get the vibe I didn't like her, and I really don't want to make her mad at me, and I felt it was appropriate for the situation), she also held my hands quite a bit, we kind of danced a little (although I'm not that good of a dancer), she danced with another friend as well, and would not stop looking at me the entire time she was dancing with him, when she got done she immediately approached me and just put her hands on me and began telling me how happy she was that I came out, and she wanted to do lunch the next day, and she gave me again a hug and numerous kisses on the cheek, said she would call me when she got home, she told me that I was her sexy body, she was with a friend, and they joked around with me, made some comments to other men there that we weren't married "yet", she had a friend there and was joking about how I was going to have both of them, made a few sexual jokes, the entire time she smiled, and was laughing and giggly and seemed really happy, etc.) at the time when the bar closed, I said farewell to them and went on my way. The main complication was that she was drinking, however I do not know how drunk she was, or if these actions she was doing were influenced by how she actually felt about me, or if it was just the alcohol, or a combination of both. In person when I met with her and she wasn't drinking she seemed more reserved. I got there around 1:30 and the bar closed at 2:00, so there was not much time to be together with her. She sent me a message on Facebook about an hour after I left the bar, saying she was "glad I came out tonight." I texted her the next day to ask her if she was serious about getting lunch, and she didn't respond. I also posted on her FB wall the day after I met her at the bar: "I know I didn't get to say it last night because I got so caught up in the moment with you, but you were very beautiful last night," she didn't respond to that either. And this morning I sent her a "good morning beautiful" text, and she didn't respond to that either (however I don't think girls respond to those anyway.) Now what I need help with is that I really like this woman, and I would love to date her, however I do not have any idea on how to proceed with her. I don't know if I should not contact her for a few days (as I don't want to appear clingy), or if I should just call her and talk to her. But I am really off the deep end now, and do not know what to do next. I feel that I am making progress with her, but I am pretty inexperienced with women, and that night was a entirely new experience to me (I'm an accountant, so I don't get out much) and I think I might have embarrased myself in front of her as well that night because I really didn't know how to dance. Lol. Well anyway, that's the situation I'm in, any advise on how I should approach her and proceed with this will be greatly appreciated. I hope I've been intrepreting these signals right, if not, please let me know. Thanks in advance!! Link to comment
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