Betweenthebars Posted August 22, 2011 Share Posted August 22, 2011 I guess I will start off with background. I'm 21, my husband is 26, and we have been married for 1 year and 1 day. The first time we were together was for two months when I was 15. His longterm ex girlfriend told him to come back, so he left me for her. After that, we didn't have contact for five years. Got back in touch, and then got married. Ok, so I'll try to sort this in an orderly fashion, so here goes... First problem: WoW. He plays non stop. I understand addiction, I've had first hand experience... But he is destroying our marriage already. He will play for a full damn day, not even bothering to kiss me or say I love you or even eat. He will get up to piss and that's about it. I sometimes break down and cry, at which point he says he is sorry and he loves me. Keep in mind, he says this without taking a break from WoW. Sitting there, clicking away, supposedly apologizing without looking at me. Which just hurts even more, because he obviously doesn't mean it. Now, I have tried every approach. I have tried leaving him alone, ignoring him completely, to give him time to possible miss me and log off without me prompting. That doesn't work. I have tried quietly and calmly bringing it up, letting him know he is neglecting me and hurting me a lot. That doesn't work either. I've recently told him I can't do this much longer, be involved with someone who refuses to get help for their addiction, and that stopped him playing for a full twenty four hours. Yeah, not quite the response I hoped for. I don't know what to do anymore. Next issue... In the beginning, we had sex everyday. On average three times, up to five to six times daily. That slowly burned off. At one point, we went two months without sex. This time, it's been two weeks. He masturbated last night. Trust me, I am all for masturbation. Sometimes it is nice to get off alone, I get it. But it kind of hurts that he would rather masturbate than sleep with me, or get head from me. I've always done everything he wanted, every little fantasy I made come true. I was the first girl he's ever been with who was willing to participate in real BDSM with me - and even that only held his interest for so long. Am I overreacting? Should it not bother me that he masturbates instead of having sex? The only times we do it, I practically beg and beg till he gives in. I just feel so neglected I pretty much sit in the bathroom and cry when he goes to sleep. I try to be loving, I try to do everything I can to get him interested in me again, but I feel out of options. I don't know what to do anymore. I guess I was just hoping that someone might magically have a fix for this, even if it feels impossible right now. I love him. I don't want to leave. But I don't like crying everyday, and I just feel tired. Link to comment
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