Procrastinating in going back to school each year. Big issue!!

[JDMxTeGrA101]

Ok so I've been telling myself I will be going back to school year after year and its been like this for 4 1/2 years already. I am 24 years old and I was set on going back to school this coming fall season. I met this wonderful girl last summer and we became friends & then we became a couple and its our first year together already. Ever since I got with her I changed myself from a regular guy to a classy guy. She is into fashion and got me into shopping at expensive places and wearing expensive accessories (Louis Vuitton, Gucci, Burberry, etc). She even got me into eating out at fancy expensive dinners and I used to be the guy who didn't really care to eat at expensive places because I was more into spending my money on automotive stuff.

 

Now to talk about this wonderful gf I have, she is definitely doing better than me for sure. She's 20 years old and has good paying job and goes to school full time and soon to be into a University while I am just working full time and not getting anywhere with my job other than extra money which I spend most of it weekly and leave the rest to savings.

 

She always questions what I'm going to do with my life and I tell her I am going back into school but spending alot of money isn't cutting it because it makes me want to stay at my full time job because if I go back to school then I won't make as much as I make right now. Maybe this is the main reason why I am procrastinating. I am also trying my best to not shop at expensive places anymore and just buy cheaper clothes since I'm not rich at all.

 

To me it seems like I have no goal and I know if I stick to the guy I am then I'm pretty sure she will lose interest in me while she graduates and makes 3x the money I am making while I am still living at home with my parents. I can move up in my job but with no degree which is the hard part if I ever get fired/laid off etc.. There are alot of guys who like her and I am lucky to have her but I fear I will lose her later on when she gets exposed to the college university life since there are guys who are rich, have nice cars, an education while I just have a full time job and make decent money but it gets spent easy.

 

 

Any input guys?

[ForumGuy]

For yourself and your girlfriend, you need to go to school and stick with it. She sounds great and will understand the sacrifices you have to make to get an education. Just think if you had started 4 years ago rather than procrastinating, you would be finishing now.

[JDMxTeGrA101]

This is so true. I've had just too much fun throughout the 4 years of just working full time and partying etc.. but I've settled down and seem more mature about myself now.

[LAYAAN]

Every minute that you are taking away from school... its going to get harder for you to bite the bullet and start school and take school seriously.

I will give you a personal example. I wanted to study ahead. Everyone I met, I told them "Yeah... I want to study ahead." But that was it. I was trying to date several people, trying to get married, working a job I clearly knew wasn't going to take me much farther in life, the coworkers were lousy, cheap, mean, low-life people. I hated working there. I kept saying "Yeah ... I want to study ahead." I literally wasted 4 precious years of my life. During this time, I saw my classmates from college, move on, get into Universities, and finish their MS while my life was getting sucked into a black hole. One day a bright relative of mine asked me "okay, you say you want to study ahead... what are you doing about it? what steps did you take today to reach your dream?" I had no answer. I was living in my parents' house, get up, help with household chores, go to work, argue with co-workers, hate my job, hate my life, come home exhausted, sit in front of TV, eat dinner, go to bed feeling jealous of my classmates who were finishing up their education, getting married, moving on with their life. Who was responsible for this? Noone but myself.

 

Now I'm stuck in this job and field due to recession. Just imagine, had I completed my degree 4 years before, I wouldn't be stuck here. Don't do it friend. Take charge of your life. Only you have to push your life to where you want it to go. If you are dating a classy girl, she wont' stay with you for long if you don't prove to her that you can make somethign out of your life. Think about that.

[Jetta]

Better late than never. Apply for spring semester, since it's probably too late for fall, and get back into school. If your worried about losing your job, take night classes.

[Mercurial Girl]

Careful now, that education bubble is about ready to burst.