CameronDL Posted August 22, 2011 Share Posted August 22, 2011 My girlfriend, whom I'll call Molly for this post, and I have been together for almost two years its been a very strong relationship...or so I thought. I felt like I could tell her anything, and over these two years I have. I've told her each and everyone of my deep secrets I possibly could. I thought she had done the same. Just recently I found out some very painful information and now I'm feeling very lost and unsure of how to handle this. We started being sexually active after around two months, and just recently I found out that the way I was doing it hurt her, physically. Even more I found out that she felt like she couldn't tell me her sexual interests, which are really not bad at all, and has been talking about it with another man (online) who shares those interests, and has become sexually attractive to him. I knew she was talking to this man, we'll call him Dave, but I only thought they were friends since they met on an online game and I've even spoken to him in-game a few times. Finally the relationship between Molly and Dave grew too confusing for her and she did tell me about everything since after we had sex and she began to cry since she was thinking of him. I found out about so many lies she's told me, and how she told the truth to Dave, and I feel like I did a bad job of....everything. As her boyfriend I feel like she should be able to share anything with me, and it turns out she felt like she's had to lie about a lot of it. When I asked her to break contact with Dave, she said she would stop sexual discussions but keep him as a friend. Asking her a further she's agreed to stop talking to him, but I feel like it wasn't very willfully. I'm hoping someone can shed some light and help clear my mind. Was I not open enough, or inviting enough? Was it my fault that Molly felt like she had to cover the truth? Should I believe that she has broken the contact between her and Dave? and won't try to reconnect? I want to trust her with this, but I'm finding it very hard to do. Link to comment
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