should I break up with him??

[littlemommy]

Ok so my story is kind of long and a bit complicated I really hope someone can help me.

 

So I'm 22 and my boyfriend is 21 we started dating last summer and we got pregnant really fast (1month into the relationship), so we moved in together and descided to keep the baby. things were great before he started having people over every day and going out without me and all that. it was to the point that some of his friends wouldn't even ring the door they would just come in even if we weren't there and they would stay for days at a time. So we started arguing alot and all the time, so he descided to break up with me 2 month before the baby was due saying that he didn't want our son to live in a house where there was always arguing and screaming ans all that and that he didn't want us to hate eachother. So I had to move out and go back to my parent's house 4 hours away. He would call me everyday and he wanted to be able to make it work again maybe after the baby was born. Everytime we talked to eachother he was saying he loved me and everything and everytime we saw each other he would act as if we were together. So 1 month after the birth of our son I told him that he was either going to be with me and for that he had to move in at my parents with me or if not we would never be together cause I was done playing around. So he descided to move with me and my parents and it was awesome, we were getting along great it was rare that we would argue. We had agreed when he moved in that we would go back to his hometown at least once a month so he could see his family and friends, but everytime we would go he would leave me and baby at his family to go party with his friends, which sucked and we would always get in a fight because of that cause he didn't want to bring me he said he needed his boy time (even though there was girls there) anyway. So after 3 months of living here with us he just couldn't take it anymore and descided to go back to his hometown saying we were still together and we would move in together as soon as we had enough money to afford it. So now we're doing the long distance relationship. 2 weeks ago I spent 2 weeks with him at his mom's place and we had a great time, this time he was bringing me out with him and we didn't fight or nothing. except the last night I was there, his cousin was doing a party and we had no one to watch the baby so he discided to leave me alone taking care of the baby so he could go, he came back at 5:30am let me tell you that I wasn't really happy so we got in a big fight again. So I left ther being mad at him, not really what I wanted. So I've been back here fore 2 weeks and I thought everything was going great until a few days ago where he said he would call and didn't, so the next day when he called I asked him why he didn't call, I wasn't mad or nothing I was just wondering, but he freaked out at me saying that everything always had to be about me that when he called he wanted to be in a good mood and only talk about our son, and then he said he would call back at supper and hung up on me. So I waited for him to call back at supper, which he did, and he acted like nothing ever happended, so I asked him about it and he said "its done, its good, its over don't talk about it anymore". Since then he seemed more distant and I started doubting and wondering, so I talked to him mom about it and told her how I was starting to feel like he didn't love me and all that (I know I * * * * ed up talking to her lol). so he was supposed to call me that day and didn't so I called and then he got really pissed off cause he somehow knew everythig that I sais even though his mom sweared she didn't say anything, he said he would call me back today when he calmed down but he still hasn't and his mom said e was gone at the beach. Its not the first time he does that and I'm getting really sick of it, I love him more then anything but I can't deal with all this no more... I almost feel like I need to make him choose between me and his friends but I don't want to do this cause like anyone he needs his friends I just wish I could be part of his friends... and now I'm all confused and I don't know if I should give him a chance or what cause I'm really sick of crying, I have baby to take care of... Please if someone can help me, and please don't say I should've waited before having a kid with him I know that! thanks

[bichin]

He isn't ready to be a responsible parent and for the 20 years you will spend raising your child he may never be. It's not fair and it's not right but your child needs you to be at peace so let go of your expectations regarding him and do the best you can without him.