dark angel9 Posted August 21, 2011 Share Posted August 21, 2011 I am really unsure about this. I have been with my boyfriend for 7 months. He was never really my physical type but I gave him a chance anyway. I fell in love as we have the best emotional and intellectual connection ever. Sex was good and regular (5x a week) but it was never "out of this world" variety. I was honestly happy with this. We had some fights recently and he admitted that I am not his physical type and that he feels that there is not that much passion in our relationship but that there is enough. I was hurt by this.... He thinks that we have a deeper connection and that relationships built on passion never last anyway. He told me that he loves me more than he ever did anyone. That he feels closest to me...but that there are girls that he felt more physical attraction towards in the past. Those girls weren't his girlfriends. He also said that our relationship is not ideal (due to lack of passion) but that it is the closest to the ideal he thinks he will find. He wasn't a jerk about this, we had an open discussion. He said that there are moments when he asks himself "is what we have enough". He also went on to say that he IS attracted to me, just not the "OMG I want to do it all day" variety. He did say that he feels more passion now that he did at the start due to our emotional bond deepening. He is very affectionate towards me. He is always touching me (I was honestly surprised to hear that he is not that physically into me). He is fully committed and treats me like a queen. He has also asked me to move in with him and is talking about marriage and kids. We have been through some hard times (illness, distance) and our relationship has always endured. However, I do wish deep down that I am his physical type and that I rock his world in that way. I do get some pangs of sadness because I know that I do not. I am actually quite attractive....but I guess not enough. Any words of wisdom? I would be absolutely shattered if we broke up. Link to comment
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