confused, no closure

[mg22]

why would someone walk out on you after being totally in love, devoted, after being together for so many years?? just vanish , disappear, no calls, nothing?? ive been in other relationships broken up and moved on, but this is the hardest, iam left thinking and thinking and cannot understand his actions, its been 1 months 2 weeks and iam lost.. iam i fooling my self that one day he may give me a answer???

[learning2relax]

I feel for you. I understand. I can't share the duration that you both had in the relationship - I can only imagine that it makes things a lot more difficult.

 

My best suggestion to you is to search on the word "closure" on ENA and read the threads pertaining to it and other people's journey's seeking it and where they finally landed.

 

As a quick summary - it comes from you. Not from him. It takes time. Give yourself time. It takes a bit to get here and understand this. You will never know why - even if he were to tell you, how do you know it is honest? Just take care of yourself and give yourself permission to grieve and heal. Closure comes with the process. The idea that you get closure from the other person is a myth. I am not saying that what he did was right. Even if he did tell you, you wouldn't have the "closure" you want or seek - it is somewhat of a vast endless pit when seeking it outside yourself.