How do i get people to think of me differently?

[SashaC]

I'm considered a * * * * and i used to be ok with that. I had just got out of a bad realtionship and i thought the best way to avoid pain was to not be in a realtionship and have fun but now i'm feeling a bit lonely and i've found that by avoiding pain i'm avoiding happiness, what should i do? how long will it take for people too see me differently?

[anon084]

Start seeing yourself differently, and others will follow suit.

[Angel Irulan]

They may not see you differently until you move to a new city, depending on where you are and what the social mores are of your town. If you are in a small Southern town in the USA, you will likely carry the time you had with a slore reputation with you for a long time. If you want people to see you differently you have to change in a way they can see. What did you do that gave you that slore reputation? There are some people who are so sexually conflicted that if they think someone is a * * * * , they'll deride and degrade you to everyone that will listen. Sometimes these types have a ton of friends, actually. It's not jealousy that makes them do this, it's internal conflict. You really don't ever want to be that to someone actually, it can hurt too much having your privacy invaded in such a personal way. What kind of place do you live in? Is it possible to avoid anyone you've known before who might be repeating the * * * * rumors? Do you have known enemies who are doing that to you?

 

I have more questions than answers. If you really want to start over again with a fresh slate: move.

 

Angel

[Stay_home]

I'm considered a * * * * and i used to be ok with that. I had just got out of a bad realtionship and i thought the best way to avoid pain was to not be in a realtionship and have fun but now i'm feeling a bit lonely and i've found that by avoiding pain i'm avoiding happiness, what should i do? how long will it take for people too see me differently?

 

You have to first open your heart and in order to do that, you have to be willing to be hurt again.

[catfeeder]

Once I started living from a place that cares about what I'm giving instead of what I'm getting, then whoever noticed that was beside the point.

 

When you're busy and focused on things that matter to you, you don't have time to worry about how you're perceived. You'll attract people who align with your interests, and you won't have much room for concern about anyone else.

 

We change how others see us by changing how we see ourselves.