newagain Posted August 20, 2011 Share Posted August 20, 2011 I am recently divorced (1 year) and so is she. I have left a abusive relationship and found my soulmate. I have learned new levels of love and respect in this new relationship......and then the bomb drops... The loving, gentle, amazing woman I love becomes a very raw nerve every 28 days. She is borderline emotionally abusive and picks at everything anyone does (me and her kids). The next morning she acts as if nothing ever happened. It truly is a test of my patience. I consider myself a patient and resourceful person, but it has been eight months of trying different ways of reaching her. I cannot even think of approaching her while her hormones are raging so I wait for a chance when she will feel safe and sane to talk about it. She admits to feeling badly for the way she treats those close to her, and then explains that she doesn't know what to do. I certainly know better than to tell her what to do, but how can I incourage her to get some help? I have been in a marriage and several long term relationships before this one and never felt so much of a shift in mood and temperament. I don't want to change this beautiful and caring woman, but I am truly pushed to my breaking point every 28 days, if for only 24 hours. I have tried to just give her space while she rages, but she says I abandon her...... HELP! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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