intotheself Posted August 20, 2011 Share Posted August 20, 2011 I think I have made the hard decision of leaving my sexless marraige but I am still agonizing. My husband and I have been sexless for about last 14 years, out of 16 years of marraige. We didn't seem to have good chemistry as a couple from the beginning, although we have been on good terms. He has erectile dysfunction along with his very low libido. We don't have children. The sexual issue had made me drift apart from him, so I went to study abroad for years and came back. We have been apart about 8 years by now, living in different cities. I have had good friendship with my husband. He is a very caring and nice person. I feel so terrible for leaving him. It is not a sensible option to leave a sexless marraige in my asian culture. It is very hard (not impossible) for women over forty to start a new relationship. Among over 90 colleagues at my work, I will be the only divorcee. There are many women living in sexless marriage in my society, and they woudln't consider divorce as a way out when they have children I have been losing courage to carry out my divorce till the end. We were given a month of reconsideration period from the court. I am scared of becoming alone and feel huge amount of guilt and pity toward my husband. The feeling is overwhelming. I know that I am the one who is responsible for my own decision, but I wish I could have some support. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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