zoechi Posted August 20, 2011 Share Posted August 20, 2011 so am here to tell my story and looking for some advice. hope you guys can help and thank you very much! here is my story: the bf: i've been seeing him for almost a year. right before i moved to another country we started the relationship. the friend with benefits: after i moved to this country i met this guy and he really liked me but i never told him i had a bf. we saw each other couple of times.. as i tried not to be emotionally attached so i kept telling him he was good in bed and nothing emotional has ever been said. once i asked him to drive all the way here to my place (40-70 mins drive depends on traffic) and we had sex. right after that he said he gotta go cuz he had to go to work early in the morning. i was like yeah you'd better go now (cos i also had to go to school early next day morning). and i know that was rude. he then said actually he could stay for a little bit. i just smiled and walked him to the door. after a while i felt really bad and guilty for cheating on my bf. so i called him and told him i had sex with some guy. i actually wanted to break up with him and i thought he would raise it. cos as you may have seen i don't really love him that much. if i did i wouldn't have had sex with others as soon as i moved. surprisingly he didn't mention anything about breaking up with me. i felt even worse. he said he was gonna have sex with some other women too at least hes not the one started cheating. i said i wouldn't be able to accept it and i know am being selfish. actually i asked him not to have sex with others. probably am not making much sense here cos i said i didn't love him that much but still don't want him to have sex with others. i think i will be really upset if he does. he said it depended on how much commitment is in this relationship and if he saw reason not to have sex he won't. i feel really bad and guilty. my bf is always so nice to me and always put himself in my shoes. i started feeling i should stop doing all the devil things to him that being said trying to break up with him but i never mentioned it cos if i had said it i would be very upset. so i told him am not willing to commit, hoping he would break up with me.. but still he didn't and said we should just wait for a few months and see what happens. lately i had sex with the other guy again and now we are both clear that we are nothing but sex buddies. however, i start having feelings for him. and when i tried to be loyal to my bf i told this guy that i had a bf and i wanted to stop seeing each other. but i did see him again. and now he always says i only want sex with him.. my bf doesn't know i had sex again. and he told me he hadn't had sex. so... that's basically it.. i know i probably sound like a terrible person and guys might wanna stay away from me.. but still i hope you guys can give me some advice on what to do next. i do know what i want.. i wanna break up with my bf yet i don't want him to get hurt and i don't wanna get hurt either.. and the other guy i want something more from him and i wanna know how to convince him that there is something more than sex between us. since my previous behavior makes him think so. so what do you think about all that and what do you think i should do? thanks for your opinion! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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