MissM2012 Posted August 19, 2011 Share Posted August 19, 2011 I have a friend I've known for over ten years. We've lost touch a few times but now are in contact, she even had to move in with me for a bit when she fell on some hard times. Over the last two years she has started in on the stuff that made us have falling outs before-being hateful, rude behavior, and the like. She was known to spread rumors about me when were in high school. I figured that now that we're adults, she would have matured away from all that. We used to be incredibly close, but lately I have been trying to extract her from my life. She actually threw a temper tantrum that I went to spend the summer with my boyfriend, who became my fiance recently. She knows he is in the military and has to move around a lot, and I felt like she shouldn't begrudge me the small amount of time he and I have together. It is hard to cut her off completely-she knows where I live, we attend the same college and we even have some classes together this coming semester. As soon as our engagement was announced, she posted on facebook how she was "calling dibs on MoH". I ignored it, I feel like it's very rude for people to automatically assume they are invited to a wedding or to be in a wedding party. I don't want her in my wedding in any way, shape, or form, due to her behavior and the fact that she needs to be the center of attention at all times. I also worry that she will "retaliate". She has called the government on her own mother to report that her mom was illegally getting social security when she wasn't. She told the police her neighbor was a prostitute because her neighbor had music too loud one night. I am worried that she might physically harm me in some way-when she was verbally abusing me earlier in the summer because I dared to spend the summer with my sweetheart and not tell her every little detail of what he and I were doing(she literally said she wanted to know every little detail of my day), she claimed that she was having a mental breakdown and needed to go the hospital. I feel like that was just a ploy so I wouldn't be mad at her over her behavior. I have not discussed wedding plans of any sort with her, but I don't know how to say "I do not want you in my wedding at all". Help? Link to comment
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