flipballer Posted August 19, 2011 Share Posted August 19, 2011 So my girlfriend and I broke up in July. We have been going out since 2008, so it has been a bit more than 3 years. We are still both young, we started going out as freshman in highschool. Before we started dating we were best friends and so conversation has always been easy. She has been my best friend throughout the relationship and in that way we were a little unique as we probably acted more like friends around other people. And we never relied on a physical relationship to keep it going. So in April of this year, one night I was drunk and I held her ex-best friend's hand. I used to like this girl, she became a good friend this year and that night she told me she liked me and I was surprised because she never really likes anyone. I guess I felt really good about that and I continued to try to talk to her, even though it became really awkward after that night. My girlfriend found out about that a month after it happened, and we went on a break for a week because she was really angry but she said she can look past it. But I kept talking to the other girl. And when we talked it was during school, where everyone saw, which was bad. I thought I had feelings for her, and when my girlfriend told me to stop talking to her, I said we probably wont talk after high school. But I texted her in the summer to hang out and my girlfriend found out, and found out that I liked her and then she broke up with me and she said it was for good. She said she felt so stupid because everyone knew except her. And it's not that I'm not sorry. I am sorry beyond words for hurting her, and treating her like that. She said that it sucks that I realized it too late and I should've known before it was over. I would never treat her like that again, I know that, it was just a phase. But I still really love her. She was really hurt by me, and always hates stories about the girl taking the guy back after things like this. She told me I lost all her trust. When I talked to her she said at the time (two weeks ago, about a month after we broke up) she doesn't think she would ever let what I did go. But she told me that she doesn't know how she'll feel later, so she never ruled out the future. She said that in a year, she would go on a date with me and she promised to take it seriously. She also admits that what we had was very special, that she loves me and that she agrees that we were best friends and she still wants to be friends. Despite this, I am getting a strong feeling she is trying to move on because she's convinced herself that she deserves better. One thing that concerned me was whether or not I actually liked this other girl. So I hung out with the other girl last week, and not one feeling came back. It really was just a phase, and an extremely stupid one that ended my relationship. All my friends are telling me to move on and that it's over, but when I consider the way it ended and how we were together it is impossible for me to give up. This girl means the world to me and I am willing to wait for her. We are both going off to separate colleges and she agreed we can be friends and still talk and possibly meet up from time to time. She said she believes how I feel right now, but she is also convinced that my feelings would change when I'm in university, but I am really sure that they wont. I've admitted to my ex what I've done wrong, apologized a million times and am living the consequences. But is breaking up forever a fair consequence? I would really appreciate any advice or opinions. Thanks. Link to comment
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