LostnConfused87 Posted August 19, 2011 Share Posted August 19, 2011 How do I do it? I'm in my early 20s but never done anything like this before. I don't have many people I'm close to (by people I mean friends). I got mad and yelled at her a few days ago for something pretty insignificant. I've been a different person these years though, completely lost in life and angry... I don't know how to do this. We do have a slight language barrier also... This has already been a few days and I don't feel right. I see her a little each day and now we don't talk, she doesn't ask me to help her do things (pick somethings up for her, etc., little things she usually asks for help with if I'm around) she just goes and does it herself. I don't know if she thinks I'm still mad at her. She usually is a kind person, does get mad occasionally if there's a reason for her to be, but is usually very kind, but kind of quiet still. I feel really sorry for yelling at her the way I did, but don't know how to tell her. I feel like this is starting to effect me physically as well... I carry a lot of negative emotions these days and this situation doesn't help it much at all... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
holymoseph Posted August 19, 2011 Share Posted August 19, 2011 She is your grandmother, trust me, any apology will mean something to her. Just the effort alone. If she's doing these things on her own that she normally would have you help her do it's because she is putting you first by not bothering you. Truth is, an elderly woman does need your help. Can you imagine having to ask someone for help for simple things? It's a whole different kind of humility. I'd start by doing something nice for her without her asking. Offer to run an errand lets her know you are making an effort to undo the wrong that you've done. Cards are big with grandparents too. My grandparents tear up everytime I give them a lengthy, heart-felt card. But I think the gesture of helping her without her asking is a good leeway into making your formal apology. Something simple and honest will mean the most. You don't have to go into lengthy explanations, she's your granny, she knows you well and knows you are more than that simple incident. Also, she's been around awhile, she's been there herself I'm sure. Don't underestimate the power of empathy. She knows you feel bad.... the apology has already began in the silence Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chitown9 Posted August 19, 2011 Share Posted August 19, 2011 would kiss her on the cheek, look at her and say, " I am sorry." Then hug her...chi Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Point5 Posted August 19, 2011 Share Posted August 19, 2011 Oh gosh, your post made me emotional. I miss my grandmothers like crazy and wish they were still around. Just walk up to her and hug her. You wont need to say anything, she will understand and youll both feel better Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
top bloke Posted August 19, 2011 Share Posted August 19, 2011 Give her a big hug the old girl and say sorry. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seraphim Posted August 19, 2011 Share Posted August 19, 2011 ^^ Yeah, give her a big hug and say sorry. I wish I had my grandma, she died when I was 13. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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