not special

[tea4me]

Did you ever stay in a relationship where you did not feel special?

 

Sometimes I feel like I don't get anything out of the relationship. Sometimes I feel like a FWB. He does not make me feel special. It feels like we use each other for companionship. Does anyone else ever feel that way? Is companionship the most important part of a relationship?

[mhowe]

No - the connection is the most important part, and if you don't have that ---- move on.

[Hollyj]

If your needs are not being met, it is time to move on. Nothing is more devaluing than feeling like a FWB-Been there, done that.

[Trudy]

My answer to your question is yes, for almost 30 years now and i can tell you it is a terrible way to live, i wish i had never met him, i deeply regret not leaving him years ago, over the years it has completely destroyed any self worth i ever had and has had a very negative effect on every aspect of my life, i am now 50 years old and it is too late for me to look for any kind of happiness in my life, perhaps if we had tried counseling at the start of the relationship things might be different now, i really hope you dont end up like me.

[oldenoughtoknow]

My answer to your question is yes, for almost 30 years now and i can tell you it is a terrible way to live, i wish i had never met him, i deeply regret not leaving him years ago, over the years it has completely destroyed any self worth i ever had and has had a very negative effect on every aspect of my life, i am now 50 years old and it is too late for me to look for any kind of happiness in my life, perhaps if we had tried counseling at the start of the relationship things might be different now, i really hope you dont end up like me.

 

Who said 50 is too late to find any kind of happiness in life? It's never too late.

[whes]

Nope... 50 is definitely not too late. My grandpa just got married at 80!

[professorplum]

I would echo the above comments but I accept it will take a lot of courage to make that move after nearly 30 years. Why not start your own thread and receive some feedback from people about your situation?

[Hollyj]

Fifty can be the start of life. We choose our own happiness. It's up to you! No more excuses!!!!

[Stay_home]

It's 'all of the above' when it comes to a relationship.

 

Not only companionship, but loyalty as well as progression, communication and the whole nine!

 

But there are some who only want the attention/companionship of a relationship and don't really desire actually 'being' with somebody. Some marriages are like that too; all for the status and show and tell.