is this normal?

[Hypa22]

I think in some relationships there is a point when the soon to be dumped party senses the inevitable future. When this happens, is it normal for this person to not be able to talk or speak? I know it happened to me when my ex shut me out... Every time I tried to talk I'd feel this lump in my throat and rocks in my stomach. I couldn't even look him in the face or say anything to him while he was dumping me. Maybe because I kept wanting him to love me again but knew better?

 

Anyways, is this unusual? I literally couldn't talk, couldn't say anything. I'm scared to have this happen again.

[tikster]

I think it is. I know I've felt that way. It's like I didn't know how to process what I felt. Maybe it was all in my head, maybe it's real? but for some reason I felt that if I said something it would spark the series of events to come. Maybe by not saying anything, it won't happen or the circumstances will change. Maybe i'm over thinking it, but my suggesting there's a problem may spark the idea in his/her head? I don't know if that's how you feel, but I can say that I know the feeling of having that intuition and being scared of what comes next because you don't want it to happen.

[Danmasta]

It depends on the people I guess, how they handle stress and rejection. When I sense a relationship falling apart I start to distance myself too, just like you said. And when I initiated no contact with my ex, she did the same thing, wouldn't look at me, couldn't speak, just let me walk right out. It's an awful feeling, being on either end.

[Danmasta]

Maybe i'm over thinking it, but my suggesting there's a problem may spark the idea in his/her head?

I've always thought the same thing. Maybe there is no real issue, but if you bring it up you pose the risk of creating it. Self manifestation.

[Hypa22]

I don't know. I felt I couldn't really control the silence, whixch was terrifying. After a while everyone I knew was commenting on how quiet I was. Total feeling of helplessness