Sparkly Eyes Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 So I am talking to a guy I met from an online community. I enjoy talking to him but he is not my type in general. I've made a mistake to flirt with him a lot, though I never literally said that I wanted to date him and my responses to his advances have only been a smile in person or "lol" in chats! We met, had a good time and now he really wants us to go out with each other. I feel like I'm leading him on when I'm not really sure if I like him that way. How do I tell him without hurting him? If I hadn't flirted with him, it would have been much easier...What would be a better idea and less hurtful, if I just tell him I don't think we're a match or if I apologize for my flirting as well and explain myself a little better? I've said no to guys tens of times before and I still don't know how to do it. Link to comment
magnoliatree Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 Just tell him that he's a great guy but that you don't think that he's a match, don't go out with him again and stop flirting. Link to comment
DN Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 Apologise for leading him on (because you did) but say that you are afraid there is no real connection and you don't want to meet him. Then apologise again. Link to comment
Sparkly Eyes Posted August 3, 2011 Author Share Posted August 3, 2011 Apologise for leading him on (because you did) but say that you are afraid there is no real connection and you don't want to meet him. Then apologise again. We have met already...there is a connection but just not as strong for me as it is for him. Link to comment
DN Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 Then apologise and say that there isn't a connection for you and you will not be contacting him again. Link to comment
Sparkly Eyes Posted August 3, 2011 Author Share Posted August 3, 2011 The thing is, I'll still be talking to him via the online community I am in. So I want us to end on good terms. Link to comment
magnoliatree Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 I think you are overthinking this a lot. Just be nice and respectful when you tell him you aren't a match. In the online community, be kind but not flirty and treat him like you would anyone else He's an adult, he'll understand. Link to comment
DylanNotorious Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 Just tell him you don't feel any chemistry. That you see him as a good friend. There is no good way to let someone down lol Link to comment
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