Please just give back my stuff!

[Kitty87]

So I am getting really annoyed. I have asked my ex 3 times now to return my property and he has made plans 3 time to bring my things to my aunts house. Every time a now show, what is the issue with him giving my stuff back? I really couldn't make it anymore easy for him he doesn't even have to see me? HELP!

[FrenchFries]

What kind of property is it? Maybe you could ask a friend to go by his house and pick up your belongings for you?

[LaKings55]

I had my ex just leave my stuff in a box on her porch, quick and easy, no confrontation

[RiceWineSherry]

Yeap what LaKing said.

 

Have your ex box up your belongings, ask him to leave it on the doorstep or have a friend pick it up.

[chitown9]

So I am getting really annoyed. I have asked my ex 3 times now to return my property and he has made plans 3 time to bring my things to my aunts house. Every time a now show, what is the issue with him giving my stuff back? I really couldn't make it anymore easy for him he doesn't even have to see me? HELP!

 

I think he does not want to give up the one link he still has with you..chi

[greensleeves]

I don't know the details of your breakup or his personality, but he could be withholding your stuff because as long as he has it, he still has you "on the hook" because there still has to be some form of contact between the two of you. It kind of makes it difficult for you to completely move on when it's the final link between you. Even if he initiated the break up, he might be reluctant to completely break that link and the opportunity to have a little control over you.

 

Maybe instead of having him dropping it off, can you pick it up? If you're able to, choose a day and time and tell him to leave it out for you if that's possible. If you can't, give him one more opportunity to drop it off and if he doesn't, tell him you're going to start legal proceedings, or better yet forget about the items if they're replaceable. They're only things and your well being is far more important. It might be liberating for you to ditch the stuff that's a reminder of the relationship.