lennygirl Posted August 2, 2011 Share Posted August 2, 2011 Soo... I have known this guy for about five-six years... we are good friends. Not close by any means because we live 5.5hrs away from each other... I am living here in Lethbridge, AB and he resides in St. Albert, AB (the Edmonton area). I mean, I could just be thinking too much about everything, but lately, I have been seeing him in a different light. Last summer, I was on my way to my home town about 2.5hrs away (east and a tad south) from St. Albert and messaged him to meet up. I ended up going up there and having an absolute blast with him and his friends (while the entire time he is flirting with me). We all went to a restaurant and a pub that night. He invited me to stay over at his house, which I accepted, but nothing ended up happening. So... almost a year goes by... we text each other but nothing really exciting. And then I tell him I am going back to my hometown (2.5 hrs away from St. Albert). He said he wanted to see my hometown and I said we were very welcoming. Sure enough, he drives all the way to my hometown. He meets my family, tour my hometown, go out for supper, drink, dance and gamble. It was a fun time. He later takes me home and very respectfully asks for a kiss goodnight. And we kiss... Again, after, we message each other but nothing romantic or sexual. A few months go by and the beginning of July he wanted to come and visit Lethbridge while on his way to BC. Sooo... he drives from St. Albert - to Calgary - to Leth - back to Cal - then BC. The day he wanted to come was the worst of all days for a visit because I was doing a morning shift at my one job and a 12hr night shift at my other job... However, he shows up (after I tell him this...) and I show him Lethbridge.. The entire time he is down we have a deep conversation and talk about the future... I am completely exhausted after 4hrs and have to end my time with him. No kiss this time, but a hug goodbye. Again, our texts are very polite. Like, "how is your day going" kinda stuff. I also did not realize how attractive he was until now. Weird? Anyways........ what are you thoughts? is this going anywhere?... and if so it is going mighty slow... Link to comment
LaKings55 Posted August 2, 2011 Share Posted August 2, 2011 Well, just put out the signs, and see what he does. But asking for a kiss? What is this junior high? I always wondered how a guy would come accross if he asked to kiss a girl, lol. I always just went for it, gotta check the chemistry with a date. Link to comment
lennygirl Posted August 2, 2011 Author Share Posted August 2, 2011 ... I found that a bit odd myself. I asked my girlfriends about it and they said it was a good thing... because that means he doesn't go around and kiss every girl he sees. Buuut... I'm with ya. I would of preferred if he just took control and dove in. Link to comment
LaKings55 Posted August 2, 2011 Share Posted August 2, 2011 Lol, definitely. I've known guys that go for the kiss when they pick a girl up for a date, not after. Never tried that, I like to see where a date is going before I'll do that, but definitely date 1 or 2, and I just go for it. But, could just be a respectful dude. Keep us posted though. Some people like to take things slow (myself included, not that slow though) and others seem to be saying "I love you" after a couple weeks. I remember taking a girl out for dinner a couple of times and she threw it out there like candy. "I think I'm in love with you." All i could think to say was "uh, thanks?" I see people on facebook all the time saying "I love you" right after they start dating. Creeps me out. They don't even know the person well enough. Link to comment
lennygirl Posted August 2, 2011 Author Share Posted August 2, 2011 Thanks for your input LaKings55 I am not really sure where it is going and if it is going anywhere for that matter. We do live hours apart.... This guy is a good guy. A nice girl will snatch him up sooner or later. And I agree with the "i love you"s... if you say it frequently and too soon it almost does not mean anything.... It is a special phrase, for special occasions. Link to comment
LaKings55 Posted August 2, 2011 Share Posted August 2, 2011 It's funny sometimes when you're a decent, good-looking single guy. People ask me all the time why I'm single. I always tell them, well I got out of a relationship a while ago, and I just want to focus on my career for a while, and then maybe I'll think about dating. And they think I'm crazy or something. Like no one like me should choose to be single, or that women will just flock to my beck and call, lol Link to comment
lennygirl Posted August 2, 2011 Author Share Posted August 2, 2011 Hmm... well you will date when your ready, when the timing is right. I understand your frustration - everytime I visit my hometown the first question my family asks is "you have a man yet, woman?". Maybe they say it in nicer terms... buuuut, its basically the jist. Link to comment
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