SinfullySweet Posted August 1, 2011 Share Posted August 1, 2011 I've been talking to a guy for a couple of months. During that time he's gone through a lot (lost an immediate family member and he is in the middle of a cross country move). We've gone out twice. Both of those times we've fooled around, but not had sex. I was really tired the last time we hung out and there were a couple of awkward spacey moments on my part. We were supposed to go out to dinner the following night (no set time or place), but he had something come up. I might have reacted a little harshly and said not to worry, but that I'm traveling a lot this month so if he's interested in seeing me again he'll have to set a solid time/date. He said that was fair enough. I apologized if it came off harshly and he said not to worry. We've texted a bit since then and it's been friendly, but I think I came off a little strong and might have scared him a little. I texted him today to ask about his weekend. He said it was quick and that now he is moving in the heat. He asked about mine. I said mine was fun and to let me know if he needs anything. He said, "Thank you and I left it at that. What can I do to salvage things? Last week he was texting me every day trying to get together. I know he is busy with his move right now, but should be a little more settled by Thursday. I leave Saturday and will be out of town for the next 3 weekends (he doesn't know this). May I text him on Wednesday to see how his move is going and ask if he wants to do something Friday? Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted August 2, 2011 Share Posted August 2, 2011 When it boils down to it, it's only been two dates. In real life (yes I'm not really counting the talking to each other), you don't know each other well. That's not bad - it just means it's all new. If I were you, I'd just relax. He's not contacting you because he doesn't feel like it. If you want to text him Wednes then do it, but don't be disappointed if he says no. Link to comment
SinfullySweet Posted August 3, 2011 Author Share Posted August 3, 2011 He actually texted me while I was sleeping last night to ask what I was doing today. I responded this morning that I'm busy today and tomorrow, but free Friday night. He said his move isn't going well (he's moving to a place a couple of blocks away from me), but didn't elaborate. He hasn't responded to my last text which I sent hours ago. Oh well... Link to comment
magnoliatree Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 I don't think that there is anything for you to do. You've shown your interest and the ball is in his court. Link to comment
SinfullySweet Posted August 3, 2011 Author Share Posted August 3, 2011 I think you're right. I don't know if he's interested and just going through a lot (which I can understand) or not interested. He does initiate contact and ask to spend time with me. I guess I just have to see if he texts later to follow up. I don't want him to feel pressured or chased, but I would really like to see him before i spend the next 3 weekends out of town. Link to comment
SinfullySweet Posted August 4, 2011 Author Share Posted August 4, 2011 This is so frustrating! I think I'm done. He said the other day that even if he isn't settled in before I leave he could still use company. Then he texted yesterday to inquire about my plans today. I don't understand why he won't just follow up! I was really hoping to see him Friday night, but now I'm thinking I should just cut contact. Am I being unreasonable? He does have a lot going on... Link to comment
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