behindblueyes Posted July 31, 2011 Share Posted July 31, 2011 She is in her 20's, is super hot, smart, confident, can have any guy she wants, and I am sure she gets approached by guys all the time. She's the assertive type, doesn't take any crap from anyone, puts people in their place when they need to be, and has no problem going up to a guy, smiling at him, making eye contact yet she likes "kinda shy guys". Why is this? I would think that a girl like her would be interested in a guy just like herself, do not give the time of day to shy guys and see them as "losers" "wimps" "not real men" vise versa. Link to comment
Ebrithil Posted July 31, 2011 Share Posted July 31, 2011 Why does it concern you that she likes shy guys? There are many reasons why she would like the shy people depending on her motivations or how shallow she might be. It could be the case that she likes to feel in control and being the dominant party in the relationship thus the shy guy is less likely to be more dominant as they usually have low self confidence. She might like the challenge of bringing a shy guy out of his sell making him more confident and feeling she is a positive influence on his life. Or she may have come to the conclusion that the shyer guys usually treat girls better and with more respect that the confident ones because they don't push their luck so much, testing the boundaries of how far she can be pushed. Anyone chooses their respective partners based on a number of emotional and physiological criteria that develop over a number of years which is what they become attracted too subconsciously, that is why people who aren't themselves at the start of a relationship don't last long. Girls respond most to someone who makes them feel good about themselves and they can trust, thats what she sees in shy guys. Link to comment
BMP2CPM Posted July 31, 2011 Share Posted July 31, 2011 ...She's the assertive type, doesn't take any crap from anyone, puts people in their place when they need to be, and has no problem going up to a guy, smiling at him, making eye contact yet she likes "kinda shy guys". Why is this? ..." vise versa. Most likely at least one of her parents was quiet and shy. Probably her father. When we click with people, it's really comes down to our childhood experiences. She clicks with quiet guys. Generally, these type of women are are assertive and can mask their need for control by being helpful, especially to quiet guys who let the woman do their thing. An extreme example of a strong, assertive, controlling woman is one who grew up in an alcoholic household, where she had to take control of the situation at a young age. These women will not like assertive men and will prefer quiet guys. Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted August 1, 2011 Share Posted August 1, 2011 Why does it concern you that she likes shy guys? Anyone chooses their respective partners based on a number of emotional and physiological criteria that develop over a number of years which is what they become attracted too subconsciously, that is why people who aren't themselves at the start of a relationship don't last long. Girls respond most to someone who makes them feel good about themselves and they can trust, thats what she sees in shy guys. I agree with this. Link to comment
NMF1978 Posted August 21, 2011 Share Posted August 21, 2011 Send this women my way please Link to comment
Deciduous Posted August 21, 2011 Share Posted August 21, 2011 Hi Behindblueeyes, I'm a pretty loud extrovert and I've always been drawn to the shy, quiet types. Always figured it was a ying and yang, balancing thing. Because I tend to jump into the fray, I admire the qualities of the shy introvert who has the ability to reflect and some up a situation before voicing an opinion. I admire the qualities that I lack. My ex barely spoke in public but I dug the way he took everything in and seemed to have a searing insight into the people who had barely spoken with. He gave himself time to guage the mood and essence of people through calm reflection and some-times picked on things that I thought he'd missed. I'm a fly-by-the-seat-of your-pants, type of person and pick things up on instinct. As long as the guy is quietly confident and content in himself and his introversy is not a default position because lack of esteem etc, then, yes I prefer them. But that is just me. I also think BMP2CPM has a very valid point. Some people grow up with very stoic father figures which unconsciously influences their choice in a mate. I was mainly brought up by my Grandparents and my Granfather hardly spoke. So rarely, that I was always astonished when my Grandma told me stories of his childhood. I simply could not imagine the circumstances in which he would actually string a whole sentence together. Perhaps he wrote it on a bit of paper and posted it to her, I remember thinking at 7 years old. And, yes! She also very, very loud and the life and soul of the party. Deci Link to comment
RitaTrue Posted August 25, 2011 Share Posted August 25, 2011 Hi Behindblueeyes, I'm a pretty loud extrovert and I've always been drawn to the shy, quiet types. Always figured it was a ying and yang, balancing thing. Quoted For Truth Link to comment
Jake Posted August 25, 2011 Share Posted August 25, 2011 Deciduous I just wanted to say that I really do think it is a balancing thing. I often find that I'm very attracted to extroverted women and I'm a pretty shy guy. Link to comment
Iloveshyguys Posted August 25, 2011 Share Posted August 25, 2011 Or she may have come to the conclusion that the shyer guys usually treat girls better and with more respect that the confident ones ... I think this could be the reason Link to comment
Vincent Ruiz Posted August 26, 2011 Share Posted August 26, 2011 My honest opinion is she likes shy guys because she can control them and that they have no clue how to get a girl so they tend to treat her like a goddess. You say she is assertive and puts people in their place so she is definitely an alpha woman. Controlling shy guys is probably like an ego booster and like a drug because she gets to be told she is pretty all the time. When something makes her feel ugly then she can just call up one of those poor clueless guys and get a quick ego booster. But that is just my assesment of what you have told me. I don't know her or anything about her so I could be wrong. It could be that maybe a guy did hurt her and she wants a guy to treat her right. Though I doubt thats the case because usually girls like that have their confidence shot and are either shy or come of as man hating. The only way to know is if you find out. But I don't recommend that you do...at least in your current state. If you are a shy guy then she will walk all over you my friend and string you along. If you have problems with confidences then stay away for now. She is not the type of girl you should try and get at least for now. Don't by into this crap that you are not in her league because there is no league. That is just a stupid excuse shy guys use as an excuse not to approach a pretty woman. Once(if you need it) you get your confidence up then you can get any girl you want. Link to comment
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