It's hard to tell if we're even getting passed this

[yarg682]

There's a girl that's almost my girlfriend but I had this little freak out before our first date (it's really complicated) so I made her very upset. Since then I've found a lot of good ways to manage my over thinking and anxiety so I won't lose my cool with her again. We talked about that Tuesday and then we didn't talk after that for the next few days. She has a friend I added on facebook since he knows a lot about her and always seems to help me if I hit some sort of wall I was hesitant to ask him for his advise since I had a feeling she'd be right there and I thought it would backfire. Well I simply asked how long she usually stays upset for and said I'm trying to improve my behavior and keep it together. He said that she's right there and she said if things are going to get better I have to tell her that. The thing is I told her that a few days ago and it's like it bounced right off or something. Well I told her this funny story from when I was a little kid and it had to do with me learning to behave better even if I never get hit with a negative consequence so it's like I don't have to lose her to act better. Shortly before all this I sent her this song I made on my guitar as a nice gesture since there was still tension (I've made her a song before and she really liked it) I noticed the next day she said something back she was like 'awe baby you're amazing!' and it made me really happy that she seems to be coming around. It's weird though we're still not talking like we were day to day I can't really tell if she still needs to think things over or not. I figure I should leave her alone for awhile again and then maybe try to talk.

[Stay_home]

I'm trying to improve my behavior and keep it together

 

What kind of behavorial problems are you having?

[yarg682]

What kind of behavorial problems are you having?

It's just anxiety from over thinking things like she won't get back to me right away sometimes and I just go over things in my head too much eventually I have this stupid idea in my head that she's just ignoring me it caused me to flip a little bit cause I just didn't control myself. I'm doing more to keep myself in check before I just start exploding but there's not a lot I can do to convince her I'm more in control but she's at least talking a little now so she's gotta be less upset with me. A little background I have mild asperger's syndrome I struggle with impulse control sometimes but if somethings there to make me learn my lesson I act better.

[Stay_home]

Does she know that you suffer from asperger's syndrome? If so, hopefully she will be understanding that your behavior is not on purpose and be willing to work this particular problem out.

[yarg682]

I've never really specifically told her I did mention that I have a neurological disorder that can cause me some problems with self control but she never asked me to elaborate. I'm starting to think she's not upset anymore since she said something so affectionate it might be something else there's this girl she hates that she tends to get all hung up on for some reason. Early on I always told her I think she should drop it since I think hating people that strongly is kind of pointless so she tends to avoid talking to me about it but she's been ranting to my friend a little so she's probably too distracted with that.