REGUY Posted July 30, 2011 Share Posted July 30, 2011 Long story short>> Girlfriend breaks up with me bc, come to find out shes not over her ex and doesnt want him to find out. I completely fell in love and even tho we bickered almost everyday (because of the issues of the ex and me being the rebound guy). So she breaks it off and becomes extremely cold with the excuse that she was scared because we moved too fast. Anyways, after we broke, I didnt beg to have her back but I tried to use guilt regarding my feelings and how much I did for her. Nothing worked. THEN I competely stop. I went one week without tlaking to her and two days ago she reache dout and said how much she missed me. We talked all day like the old times and it seemed good. We both told either other how much we missed eachother etc. The next day we get into an argument and she freaks, says it was a bad idea for us to talk again etc. I close off and said i dont care if we talk or not etc, playing like I dont care. So the next day something prompts her to contact me saying she was sorry for flipping out and wanted to see me. We spoke and I said i was over it and that i was going to pursue other woman because she wasnt into me.. she keeps pushing and then Like an idiot I jump and see her and enjoy a great night together. We wake up, and spend the day talking again without any issues all day. She has been "seeing somebody" and I tried to play it cool like it was nothing to me this morning. I walked out the house and broke down. I cant get the image of her with someone else out of my head. ANYWAYS>... So the day goes good but towards the night i loose it thinking about her out to dinner with somebody and go into text message assault. She reponded a cpl times with how she hasnt moved on but shes just going on dates. etc. SO I AM BACK TO THE GUY I WAS IN THE BEGINNING, SENDING 10000000000000 TEXT TONIGHT AND LOOKING LIKE AND IDIOT AGIN. i HAVE DONT THIS BEFORE WITH HER AND IT DRIVES ME CRAXY. IDK WHY I CANT GET IT INTO MY HEAD THAT THIS DOESNT WORK. I THOUGHT I WAS OVER HER AND I AM BACK TO WANTING HER BACK SO BAD AND NOW I AM COMPEATING WITH ANOTHER GUY. IDK HOW SERIOUS IT COULD BE IF SHE HOOKED UP WITH ME LAST NIGHT BUT I AM SO LOST AT WHAT TO DO. I THINK/NC IS THE BEST ROUTE BUT I FEEL LIKE I HAVE MADE SUCHH A FOOL OF MYSELF AGAIN THAT I NEED TO EXPLAIN. PLEASE HELP GUYS......I SENT SO MANY DRMAATIC TEXT AND SHE CANT FIND THIS APEALING AND I WAS TRYING SO HARD TO BE THE EX TJHAT WAS COOL THAT A GIRL I LOVE WAS GOING ON DATE SWITH SOMEBODY ELSE. Link to comment
REGUY Posted July 30, 2011 Author Share Posted July 30, 2011 I feel like im back to square one x100. I htought i was over her and back to my life and then I see her, she looked better than she did when we wwrre together, was the caring girl last night and this morning etc. I just dont what to do. IDK if i want to play to get her bacj or move the hell on. Link to comment
boyblue Posted July 30, 2011 Share Posted July 30, 2011 I think you need to take some time out, cool your head and think rationally about this. She broke up with you and is probably still confused and so you are not going to get answers from her she will just play you until she makes her decision about who she wants to be with. You do not want to be the guy in this game it will tear you up. You need to step back, stop seeing her and start living your own life. If you cannot survive without her then you are needy and she will find this one major turn off I promise. As hard as it is to stay away please do it and do not contact her and no floods of emotional responses it just won't work. If she keeps contacting you say that since you have broke up that you need some time to get over this and would prefer if contact between you both ceased for now. Do not say I will contact you soon just say your piece and then move on, leave it open ended. Don't be bitter or anything just say what you have to say and go. BB Link to comment
parantap Posted April 11, 2014 Share Posted April 11, 2014 If you cannot survive without her then you are needy and she will find this one major turn off I promise. As hard as it is to stay away please do it and do not contact her and no floods of emotional responses it just won't work. If she keeps contacting you say that since you have broke up that you need some time to get over this and would prefer if contact between you both ceased for now. Do not say I will contact you soon just say your piece and then move on, leave it open ended. Don't be bitter or anything just say what you have to say and go. BB Am in a similar sit and the thing is I AM melting down with out her. Am not flooding her per se, what do you suggest I do? Link to comment
gxzone Posted April 11, 2014 Share Posted April 11, 2014 Well, I will tell you one cruel thing. Women are attracted to strong men. Not just physically, but mentally. If you act like you cannot live without her, she will be less and less attracted to you, its just the law of nature. You need to be the guy that can move on and still make things happen in your life, and be successful. Of course it is difficult in your current situation, but not impossible. Start by stopping contact. You ex is just like an addiction, you won't lose that addiction if you don't stop taking the drug. Also, since you are in no condition to be contacting your ex, anything you do or say will sound needy and women won't like men that NEED them to move on. They want men that will succeed! That can provide for them and their future children, this is a natural instinct. Very, very rarely does begging work for getting women back. A lot of people on here will tell you the same thing, you need to cut contact, stop looking at things than remind you of her (as much as you reasonably can). Delete her phone number from your phone (if you find it hard, at least tell it to a VERY trusted friend, then delete it and tell them not to give it to you no matter what). Reading old texts, looking at her facebook, looking at old photos, but especially NEW photos and information are strictly prohibited. If you lack new info this is a whole load of hurt that you don't have to deal with. DON'T FIND OUT how she is doing, because you will overanalyze and question any new thing, you are already doing it with everything you already know about her. DO IT. Stop contact first, keep posting here. Every text or contact you try to make to her now will reduce your chances more and more. Its true! Take many, many months to heal, and although you've done a lot of damage already, STOP NOW. Good luck. Link to comment
parantap Posted April 15, 2014 Share Posted April 15, 2014 If I did not NEED her why would I be in a relationship? If I do stop contacting her and if she does move on? Where am I then? And what do I about myself? Link to comment
parantap Posted April 15, 2014 Share Posted April 15, 2014 She won't move on but still, doing nothing when your life is feeling like it does and still do nothing? Link to comment
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