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Women how much stock do you put into a man with a very nice physical body?

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I'm not really looking for any advice. I'm just curious as to what some of you women think of a man with a really killer body at first glance. I'm talking killer abs, pretty big and muscular. Someone who obviously spends a good amount of their time in the gym and has been doing it for a while. Even before you know this person really, or get to know them. Do you usually have preconceived opinions about guys that might be labeled as "meatheads"? I'm currently getting into bodybuilding/weightlifting and I've been doing it for about a couple of months roughly. Generally I just want to be in better shape health wise before I get into my 30's. I already have a girlfriend and I think it would be a nice treat for her to have someone with a killer body. Plus, I want to feel like I can at least protect her. But yes, I'm just wondering how much stock you women put into something like that.

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Depends on the girl. I don't go for the big and muscular look. A bit musular is fine, but not into the bodybuilding thing.

 

Yes, I must admit, it makes me think they will probably be shallow. That may be shallow of me, but hey, we all prejudge to an extent.

 

Of course, a lot of women love it though.

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Yeah.. I don't really go for that look. I once dated a guy who was muscular but rather small; I usually wouldn't go for the muscular look at all, but he wore it well. Generally, though, it doesn't much appeal to me. Additionally, to me, it could signal some sort of incompatibility as Ariel said. I'm trying to get more physically fit and am starting to go running, etc., but I'm not a gym rat by any means. I don't know how much I'd have to talk about with someone he spends a lot of time at the gym.

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I appreciate it aesthetically, but also see it as a potential incompatibility. I'm not a very active person, so, yeah.

 

As far as type, though, I'd take a slimly muscled guy over a heavily muscled one. My partner is all sleek muscle and sharp angles, and it's rather like having a bengal cat around. It's still a cat, but there are moments where I just stop and go "pretty."

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I like slim and in shape, but I don't care about muscles or anything and I'm not that attract to bulky guys or guys who spend a lot of time at the gym. If they just have an active lifestyle (biking a lot, running, etc..) ok, but just spending a lot of time in a gym working on muscle definition is a turn off to me.

 

It's really a personal thing, like Ariel pointed out.

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The real issue is that there is no one definition for 'killer body'. Some women like really slender lean men, and others like muscled men and everything in between. I've had a wide range of body types in my BFs, and frankly when I really fall for someone, it's not that important one way or another because i love the whole person.

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I have a very slim frame, about average height and I do alright for myself. I think it doesn't matter the body size as long as you can wear the weight and make it appealing. I know women who are pretty heavy, but they dress so nice that it compliments their body.

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Depends on the girl. I don't go for the big and muscular look. A bit musular is fine, but not into the bodybuilding thing.

 

Yes, I must admit, it makes me think they will probably be shallow. That may be shallow of me, but hey, we all prejudge to an extent.

 

 

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Guys should look good without appearing to work too hard at it. There's something almost feminine about being really concerned about your appearance.

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OK, so my serious response for the OP - it matters a lot to me. I spend a lot of time working out myself, so I can't compromise and date a guy who's not fit. He won't understand my commitment and lifestyle, and I won't respect someone who doesn't take care of their body.

 

Again - it speaks more to core values. If someone isn't into fitness, they're probably not going to find it to be a critical feature. It's about likemindedness, more than what's physically attractive.

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It seems there is so much stereotypes on people that work out and take good care of their body. I've been working out for 15+yrs, have a degree, a career, can carry a decent conversation and average below the waist. I work out to stay fit and healthy and I don't expect my potential mate to be thin or toned. In fact half of my ex's are curvy and appreciates me for me. That includes my physical and mental attributes. Working out for me is not an obsession with my body but a way to release stress and build confidence so whats the big deal? Why the bad rep? Just an fyi Im not juiced up nor do i belong on muscle and fitness mag but I do have a defined body.

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^^ Probably for the same reason we curvy big women have a bad rep for not 'being like we should be' when compared to thin super models. Just my thoughts.

 

It's the world we live in unfortunately.

 

It seems there is so much stereotypes on people that work out and take good care of their body. I've been working out for 15+yrs, have a degree, a career, can carry a decent conversation and average below the waist. I work out to stay fit and healthy and I don't expect my potential mate to be thin or toned. In fact half of my ex's are curvy and appreciates me for me. That includes my physical and mental attributes. Working out for me is not an obsession with my body but a way to release stress and build confidence so whats the big deal? Why the bad rep? Just an fyi Im not juiced up nor do i belong on muscle and fitness mag but I do have a defined body.

 

Personally I'm really getting into working out. It's a great stress relief and gives myself some much needed "me" time. It's good to have a legitimate place where I can't be bothered sometimes. A female friend of mine recently asked if I got bigger in regards to my body. I found it kind of funny and wasn't sure what to say. I'll be honest, if this comes with some perks that make flirting a little more interesting, I certainly won't mind.

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It seems there is so much stereotypes on people that work out and take good care of their body. I've been working out for 15+yrs, have a degree, a career, can carry a decent conversation and average below the waist. I work out to stay fit and healthy and I don't expect my potential mate to be thin or toned. In fact half of my ex's are curvy and appreciates me for me. That includes my physical and mental attributes. Working out for me is not an obsession with my body but a way to release stress and build confidence so whats the big deal? Why the bad rep? Just an fyi Im not juiced up nor do i belong on muscle and fitness mag but I do have a defined body.

 

Imagine you meet a woman for a date who looks like she took 3 hours to get ready to see you. Every single hair is perfectly in place. Lots of make-up, all applied flawlessly. Perfectly manicured and pedicured. Airbrush tan. Hair extensions, breast implants, botox. Perfect outfit, perfectly accessorized. Shoes match the purse. Earrings, rings, necklace, bracelets, the whole works.

 

She thinks she takes good care of her appearance. You think she's obssessed and over-the-top and you prefer the natural-looking chick with just a little lip gloss and tousled hair, wearing a t-shirt and jeans.

 

Similarly, I prefer the guy who plays soccer a couple times a week and is generally fit and toned to the one who spends 2-3 hours a day at the gym.

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Imagine you meet a woman for a date who looks like she took 3 hours to get ready to see you. Every single hair is perfectly in place. Lots of make-up, all applied flawlessly. Perfectly manicured and pedicured. Airbrush tan. Hair extensions, breast implants, botox. Perfect outfit, perfectly accessorized. Shoes match the purse. Earrings, rings, necklace, bracelets, the whole works.

 

She thinks she takes good care of her appearance. You think she's obssessed and over-the-top and you prefer the natural-looking chick with just a little lip gloss and tousled hair, wearing a t-shirt and jeans.

 

Similarly, I prefer the guy who plays soccer a couple times a week and is generally fit and toned to the one who spends 2-3 hours a day at the gym.

 

Hmmm, is having a super great body the same as having a lot of accessories on you? Both take a lot of time though so I guess I could see your point.

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I have nothing against people who take care of themselves - indeed, that's a good thing. I just don't go for a bodybuilder look or big muscles (I think it looks really yuck, but that's just me). It's just not a look I like at all. No doubt there are many women who love it, but just as many who don't. Nothing against the taking care of oneself at all.

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