so confusing

[schultz]

i've been with my girlfriend for a year and a half and just tonight discussed some feelings with her; anyway this is her most recent message.

 

"i'm just not happy. I can't explain anything but in my mind I know why"

[RedDress]

That's ridiculous. Is she breaking up with you? If she can't explain why, you can't hope to fix it.

[schultz]

we aren't breaking up, I finally got her to talk and she'd explained that she "didnt want to say the wrong thing" which is understandable because usually when she doesn't think before she speaks she ends up saying things that hurt me and she regrets them.

 

she said she doesn't feel like we'll ever be on the same page and I don't even know what that means, I told her we've been on the same page and that every couple goes through arguments and that it's part of growing the relationship.

 

am I wrong? we have been together for a year and a half and we do get in a decent amount of conflicts, alot of which are just brushed aside as we both have anger problems.

[blackhawks1287]

confront the anger, and if you have such issues then you two you cannot be on the same page because instead of dealing with those problems you "brush" them aside.

 

Confront the conflict and figure out how to get passed it together and grow i.e. no longer an issue, not just put it in past and hope it wont reoccur.

[Lincoln]

we aren't breaking up, I finally got her to talk and she'd explained that she "didnt want to say the wrong thing" which is understandable because usually when she doesn't think before she speaks she ends up saying things that hurt me and she regrets them.

 

she said she doesn't feel like we'll ever be on the same page and I don't even know what that means, I told her we've been on the same page and that every couple goes through arguments and that it's part of growing the relationship.

 

am I wrong? we have been together for a year and a half and we do get in a decent amount of conflicts, alot of which are just brushed aside as we both have anger problems.

 

You are forgiving and seem on the level, but from the posted thread it sounds like she has the control of the emotions and you are forced to follow her agenda. She should have realized how that message was going to affect you. It was not nice and very manipulative.

[schultz]

You are forgiving and seem on the level, but from the posted thread it sounds like she has the control of the emotions and you are forced to follow her agenda. She should have realized how that message was going to affect you. It was not nice and very manipulative.

 

She is a very manipulative person with full control of my emotions unfortunately; On top of that she has no control of her own emotions.