sadandalone Posted July 24, 2011 Share Posted July 24, 2011 I have gone through so much and have dealt with my emotions everyday.....I miss being in a relationship, I miss having someone to think about daily, someone to talk to when I have something to say....I know he was bad for me, I know he was a cheater, a liar, was only with me because I was convenient, because I let him use me....he came to me when he had no where else to go....he is an alcoholic, doesn't have a drivers license, barely has a job because of his record, has three kids, all by different woman, has been married 4 times.....why do i still think of him...why??? Link to comment
wicked6018 Posted July 24, 2011 Share Posted July 24, 2011 because you cared about him. no matter what, you cared about him and held out hope that he felt the same way for you. everyone can say "you deserve so much better" "you can do better" "move on"....but none of those things help. it's inevitable: you are going to hurt for a while. how long were you with him? How long has it been since the BU? my thoughts are with you...hang in there. i know it's hard. Link to comment
sadandalone Posted July 24, 2011 Author Share Posted July 24, 2011 I was with him for over three years.....he disappeared from my life on June 10th of this year...changed his number, disappeared without a trace.....I thought I would have heard from him by now....would have meant something to him....anything.... Link to comment
wicked6018 Posted July 24, 2011 Share Posted July 24, 2011 oh man, that is SO hard. three years, and then he just drops off the face of the earth. obviously, you really cared about him and put your whole heart into the relationship. all i can say is try to keep yourself busy. that is what i am doing, and it still hurts so bad, but imagine how much worse it would be if we were to just sit here and stare at pictures of our exes, wishing they would call. i think that this site helps a lot. you are not alone. you are strong, and you can and will get through this! Link to comment
thejigsup Posted July 24, 2011 Share Posted July 24, 2011 Life goes on and it is up to you to decide if you want a good life, or one with someone who cheats and lies. It's hard when they have been in your life for a long time, but it IS doable. In the future, when you are with a classy guy who treats you right, you will be so glad you did! Link to comment
LP90 Posted July 24, 2011 Share Posted July 24, 2011 Im right there with you Sadandalone. Also broke up june 10th (also our 2 year anniv), were together 2 years and after everything she cheated and lied to me for what turned out to be a long time. Now shes in a new relationship with the guy she cheated on me with. The pain is definitely inevitable and lasting. All we can do now is be like our ex's disappear from their lives as they have from ours. I also realize what a bad person she was yet cant help but miss everything we had. Also feel very lonely some times when i have no one to share things with. Need to try to stay positive and just wait for both time to heal us and hopefully a new love to help us forget our past. Link to comment
mark4 Posted July 24, 2011 Share Posted July 24, 2011 My breakup was back in Feb this year, just wanted to give you some hope that it WILL get better for you. Words and advice will help you get through the sad times because you will have ups and downs. But the one thing that has truly fixed me, because believe me I was totally broken when she left, was time. Once some time passes and the amount of time is different for everyone, you will start to feel okay again, think about the ex less and less and start to think more positively about YOU. By the way, the best thing about all this - you are completely free to do whatever the hell you want now. So get in touch with your friends family or whoever and make some plans and treat yourself, life is fun you just need to make it happen! good luck, mark Link to comment
sadandalone Posted July 25, 2011 Author Share Posted July 25, 2011 I am done, cant take anymore....I miss him and want him to miss me.....it hurts so bad to know that he has completely forgotten about me....how does someone do that...how does someone just stop thinking, caring or whatever after that long....i don't understand..... Link to comment
sadandalone Posted July 25, 2011 Author Share Posted July 25, 2011 Sad thing is that I have a couple men that want me, but I feel like I am cheating on him.....how rich is that....when he was married the whole time me and him were together.....ugh Link to comment
magnoliatree Posted July 25, 2011 Share Posted July 25, 2011 This guy sounds awful and you are lucky to be rid of him. You don't need that bad energy in your life weighing you down. Of course you miss him, but remember he threw you away and proved that he is unworthy of your love and attention. You deserve more than that. Link to comment
sadandalone Posted September 15, 2011 Author Share Posted September 15, 2011 I wanted to do an update to my status.....I have finally moved on from the jerk I pinned for and wanted after he treated me so badly....He is truly a bad person and I will never give him anymore of my time.....he lied to me, cheated on me, lead me on, and broke my heart.....he never meant to leave his wife and used me as his safe house....he lied to me saying he was only there for his child, what a crock.....he only wanted me as his mistress...well he is the loser here, he is an alcoholic, a liar, a cheater, a convicted abuser, has no drivers license and well loves nobody but himself.....I am better off without him..... This is now almost 4 months after he left and disappeared from my life and things could not be better for me...I have truly met my soulmate and we are doing fantastic.....it is like we have known each other forever.... So what I am saying is that to whoever is pinning over a lost love, don't waste your time....things do get better with NC and time.....take care everyone... I am doing fantastic..... Link to comment
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