Should I end this?

[shygirl1986]

My boyfriend and I are currently in a long distance relationship. We were together last year and we broke up in the summer and stayed that way for 2 and a half months. We were just building up our bond again and we were about to move in together. The weekend before he was about to move in with me he slept with another girl. We technically weren't going out but I was hurt because we were close to getting back together. We talked through it and everything worked out. I recently had to move back to my hometown to get my life together but we decided to stay in a long distance relationship.

 

I recently found out that he's been talking and hanging out with this girl again. I talked to him about it and he said that they were just friends and I don't get to choose who he hangs out with and he has no interest in her.

 

I'm just worried because after they slept together before she was constantly texting him and trying to talk to him even though he ignored it. I know I'm being insecure but is this right? Is it alright for a guy to be talking to a girl who has feelings for him and hanging out with her? I'm starting to not like this long distance thing.

[Stay_home]

No, I don't think that's part of the deal. Especially since this was a prior issue that you two had discussions about and apparently were on the same page afterwards. Thus, I would assume you had a problem with it then as you do now. Now suddenly she surfaces again? I don't think so....

 

Is it alright for a guy to be talking to a girl who has feelings for him and hanging out with her?

 

It would be a lot different if say the girl was a longtime friend ways before you two got together in a relationship. But it sounds like she was very much in the mix of things when you two were working on ironing out your issues. Even if she was a longtime friend, boundaries have to be set and in this case that's not happening.

[DylanNotorious]

I talked to him about it and he said that they were just friends and I don't get to choose who he hangs out with

 

 

Yes you don't get to choose his friends - but you do get to choose if he hangs out with a girl that he just slept with.

 

I know I'm being insecure but is this right? Is it alright for a guy to be talking to a girl who has feelings for him and hanging out with her?

 

Being insecure is wondering, thinking that your boyfriend is up to no good. In this case, he told you he slept with someone else, so no - your not insecure. Also, this guy is a piece of work. He makes it seem like "It's not my fault this girl is hounding me" when in actual reality you have no idea what he has promised this girl while you are safely living miles away.

 

But to be honest, this guy plays on your forgiveness. You need to be stronger.