How did you break up with your long-term bf/gf?

[chels023]

As some of you may know, I've been having issues with my boyfriend of 1.5 years (read my previous post: Can't fight the feelings).

I've come to realize that him punching me is unforgivable at this point, and that I shouldn't be in this relationship if I'm having feelings for someone else. Not to mention, I'm done with dealing with his sister's .

Anyway... we live together, and our lease doesn't end until December. I still love him and care for him immensely, but I know I need to end things. I keep putting it off, because he's completely oblivious to the fact that things aren't going well. He's so dependent on me and our relationship, that I'm afraid he's going to go off the deep end and do something stupid.

Have you ever had to break up with a serious boyfriend/girlfriend, and if so, how did you go about doing it so as to minimize the hurt and pain? Also - what should I do about this living situation?

 

Thanks!!!

[sidehop]

I've come to realize that him punching me is unforgivable at this point

 

Did this happen more than just once?

 

and that I shouldn't be in this relationship if I'm having feelings for someone else. Not to mention, I'm done with dealing with his sister's .

 

It doesn't sound healthy at all nor should you start mixing feelings for another until you make a decision with your current b/f. It's understandable when someone is in an abusive relationship they want someone that care deeply and feel like they are better.

 

because he's completely oblivious to the fact that things aren't going well. He's so dependent on me and our relationship, that I'm afraid he's going to go off the deep end and do something stupid.

 

But you're a grown adult and you need to make a decision based on your beliefs; not based on someone else. If he does anything stupid, there's nothing you can do nor you should use that as an excuse to stay with him longer. It would be difficult but if you're in an emotional and physically abusive relationship the longer you wait, the longer it'll take you to heal while at the same time start to blame yourself as the victim but also make excuses not to leave.