Does he like attention or me?

[sjm]

Hi,I went out with this guy 4 times about 6 months ago. It was great at first with him contacting me constantly. But then he told me he didn't see it becoming a relationship and he felt indifferent towards me. I told him I liked him and wanted to see where it went. He agreed and tried to take back what he said, but he stopped making plans with me and cut contact to once a week, then not at all.

 

 

I didn't speak to him anymore and I heard he started dating someone a few weeks later. About 6 months later (about 3 weeks ago) we were both in the same wedding. Seeing him at first at the rehearsal was awkward but we were both polite. He asked the bride if he could escort me in the wedding. Later on in the evening we started chatting more and it felt normal and we danced a few times. I didn't think anything of it since he'd previously told me how he felt about me and since I wasn't sure if he was still in a relationship or not (i found out later they had broken up earlier that same week of the wedding).

 

After I left the rehearsal he started texting me saying he was disappointed I had left, that he could have driven me home and asked me if i'd promise him a few dances at the wedding. I didn't get why he was contacting me and I just told him that I sure I'd dance with him at the wedding. My birthday was the next day too and he said he'd help me celebrate. I told him that I wanted to drink/dance with my friends and that I knew he wouldnt drink in front of his family. I think he felt dissed and said he could still have fun withouth drinking so I was just like ok thats good.

 

I didn't see him much before the wedding the next day, but we chatted at dinner/during the speeches. During dinner, he asked the bride about another girl that was there that he thought was cute, right in front of me. I didn't really see him much until we danced a few times at the end of the wedding. I asked him for a ride home from the wedding since I didn't have a car and had been drinking. I don't really remember much of the conversation on the way home. He dropped me off and then my friends and i were starving so I called and asked him to come back and hang out/go get food. So he came and took me to get food and came back and hung out with us all for about an hour. I texted him on the way home thanking him profusely and telling him how sweet it was for him to do that for me. My friends all expected him to call me after that because they said he definitely seemed interested during the wedding and when he came to hang out.

 

He was invited to come to a 4th of july party the week after the wedding that I was going to too. He knew I was there and he didn't come. I texted him the next day and told him I was disappointed that he didn't show up. He said that he was too that he really did want to be there. I know that if he wanted to see me that he would have been there or he could have made other plans with me. I haven't heard from him since then about 2 weeks ago. I guess I'm just trying to figure out if this guy did like me or if he just wanted some attention that wedding weekend from any girl. I was trying so hard to keep him at a distance when I saw him so I wouldn't like him again, but I do again anyway

[DylanNotorious]

To be honest, if he thought he could get some bedroom action from you, he would of tried.

 

But as for a relationship, no he wasn't keen. But in saying that, he is available for relationships with other girls.

 

I think you only like him, because you cant have him. That's always attractive.

[Lavender25]

If he is recently single then he could just be looking for a rebound. Not necessarily a rebound "relationship" but just a hookup. Especially if he asked about another woman in front of you.

[Ms Darcy]

But then he told me he didn't see it becoming a relationship and he felt indifferent towards me. I told him I liked him and wanted to see where it went. He agreed and tried to take back what he said, but he stopped making plans with me and cut contact to once a week, then not at all.

 

he asked the bride about another girl that was there that he thought was cute, right in front of me. I haven't heard from him since then about 2 weeks ago.

 

He may like you but not ENOUGH. He's indifferent towards you in terms of gf status, but he likes the ego boost of getting you to chase him. Leave him alone forever.