Turned this guy down and regret it- help!!

[KimKar]

Hey everyone. So at my gym there are many cute guys and one which I've always thought is really hot. He would check me out, but I never flirt because I'm way too nervous. So anyway, I didn't go for a while and finally went back. He was there and we ended up leaving around the same time, him and his friend were getting into the car. So I go to my car they pull behind me and he asks me if I'm with someone... I get kinda nervous and I'm kinda seeing someone so I say ya er kinda um...basically I turn him down he says can we be friends I say ya I'll see u around. So whatever I see him a few times, say hi in passing, no convos...Anyway, I wish I gave him my number, even to just be friends. Idk....what could I say. "Hey I'm stupid , I said no for no reason..just kidding" lol I will feel so dumb. Plus, I get soooooooo shy talking to new guys and the gym is a place where others can hear what you say and I just feel so stupid....

 

So what should I do?

[XxJustMexX]

Well seems the ball is in your court and it's up to you if you want something to happen with this guy. He's already been turned down once, so I'm sure he's not going to try again for fear of a second rejection... It's on you to make the next move... Go talk to him...

[dali]

You could say that you broke up with your bf and he's stalking you and could he walk you to your car... Or ask him would he mind helping you with a certain machine at the gm and going it's great to single again i can finally go to the gym. Be creative.

[KimKar]

I don't want the ball !!! I think I could say something if he comes up to me. He said he'll see me at the gym and maybe we can workout. I think if he comes over to talk to me then I can do it, but I don't think I can go talk to him. I guess I could smile and wave maybe he'll come over by me. BUT he hasn't been at the gym at all this week

[ProtestTheHero]

Any dude with a marginal amount of self-respect will take a "no" in stride and not let it bother him, but at the same time only the incredibly desperate and thickheaded will approach you again to ask you out without you signalling that something has changed. Regardless of how uncomfortable it makes you feel, you're going to have to be a little more aggressive this time around since you told him you were unavailable.

[Stay_home]

If I get caught off guard like that, sometimes I can be caught slippin' like that too - I've had that happened. I'm not really all that shy, but sometimes I can be pretty shy or reserved. I'm not always as outgoing or as talkative. If you're serious about the guy that you're seeing then maybe you shouldn't give out your phone number? I don't know what that situation is like, though.