Mandolyn Posted July 15, 2011 Share Posted July 15, 2011 Okay, im a nice girl not some trashy * * * * * . I didnt lose my vcard till 18 and ive always wanted to just stay with a low number of guys. Well the second guy ive ever been with was my ex we recently broke up a month ago and were together for a year, hes my first love. When we broke up i was completely heartbroken and had never experienced such heartache because he was my first real boyfriend, so to deal with i got drunk, and throughout the first 2 weeks i hooked up with 6 guys. YES im ashamed, never in a MILLION years would i have thought i would have dont that but i blame the heartache and alcohol. Heres my problem.. Im pretty sure im pregnant im just scared to take a test. I started spotting last week and cramping now my periods a week late. If im pregnant im trying to figure out whose it would be so if someone could help give me an idea of who you think would be most likely feel free..heres the list and situations..ill go through the list with there first letter in there name and then the situation. 1. P- my exboyfriend, we use the pull out method, im not on BC or anything and we dont use condoms, we everyday before my period and 2 days before it ended(i read where people have conceived during) my period was june 12-17. ALL OF THE GUYS EXCEPT MY EX DURING MY PERIOD. 234 Were all the next week after me and my boyfriend split up so the week of 19-25 2.E- We used a condom, he went in like 3 times and stopped, never cummed or anything. 3.AA- Used a condom, not quite sure if he got off or not but we did use condoms. 4.A- Used a condom, Pulled out WITH condom on before he got off 5.B, i dont think i slept with this guy im pretty sure we just made out- Tuesday 28 6.J. He went in once with a condom then stopped, didnt get off. July 5- i spotted 3 days before this guy 7.K. We had sex WITH condom he claims he didnt get off so i guess he didnt ha July 9th Okay, i feel really * * * * ty embarrassed and ashamed having to type all that but im disgusted with myself, So the only guy who MAY have gotten off WITH a condom was number 4 A. My period was due the July 11th or 12th, i spotted July 1 2 and 3rd and have been cramping since then. Im really hoping it would be my ex =/ i think ill have to get an abortion because of this because im scared of not knowing whose it is. =( Link to comment
Mandolyn Posted July 15, 2011 Author Share Posted July 15, 2011 Im thinking it has to be 123 or 4. =/, i have no idea when i ovulate either. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted July 15, 2011 Share Posted July 15, 2011 Take a test. You either are or you are not. Then you might have some ideas as to what to do. Sticking your head in the sand and not taking the test won't make you not pregnant if you are. Just take a test and get it over with. Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted July 15, 2011 Share Posted July 15, 2011 Take a test. You either are or you are not. Then you might have some ideas as to what to do. Sticking your head in the sand and not taking the test won't make you not pregnant if you are. Just take a test and get it over with. Couldn't have said it better myself. No one on here can tell you 'yes, you are' or 'no, you aren't'. Only thing that can do that is a test. Sadly this is the consequence. I think the first step though would be to take the test, realize you messed up (and that you had a choice to not drink and not have sex but didn't, blaming it on the drinking and heartbreak is not a way to maturely accept responsibilty), figure out what you are going to do (if you are), and go from there. Link to comment
Capricorn3 Posted July 15, 2011 Share Posted July 15, 2011 First of all, take a test! Worrying about it won't make it go away. You need confirmation. Secondly, You will never know who's it is - sleeping with six guys in a few days - the only way to find out for sure would be that they all have a DNA test (IF you are pregnant and keep it). Thirdly, I'd be a lot more concerned with your serious drinking problem (according to your various threads) which has landed you in jail and so on. Maybe it's time to visit AA? I would also consider professional counselling in general. Link to comment
annie24 Posted July 15, 2011 Share Posted July 15, 2011 take the test, yes. planned parenthood or some other low cost clinic might be able to help you out. if you are pregnant, you won't be able to figure out who the father is until the baby is born. Link to comment
mouseno4 Posted July 15, 2011 Share Posted July 15, 2011 You have a couple choices to make. Take the test. 1. If you are pregnant, you need to decide if you want to have it or not. Carry it to full term, deliver it, and care for it for 18 years. Or abort it and move on with your life. 2. If you are not pregnant, you need to decide whether having sex with that many men in so little time is what you really want. 3. You need to decide if your drinking is a serious problem, and therefore if you should go to the aforementioned AA. Link to comment
Angel Irulan Posted July 15, 2011 Share Posted July 15, 2011 Yes, everyone has said it right, take a test. I'm guessing that all the sex was when you were drunk, I don't mean to be rude by that, but typically when a girl feels like you do about sex, it would take some kind of drug to drop your natural defenses enough to have sex with six guys in a few weeks. I'm an adult over 40 and I've had sex with only a few men, so part of me is saying: "you go girl!" Some of my conservative college classmates had had 20 partners by the time we'd all graduated! So, I don't think what you did was wrong, God is not going to drop down and call you a sinner, although a few people might. We all have to deal with the health risks of sex! And there are a few. Go to the doc, and get a battery of blood tests run. Tell them what you did, so they'll know what kind of tests it's best to give besides the pregnancy one. Good luck, I hope it goes well for you! Angel Link to comment
Mandolyn Posted July 15, 2011 Author Share Posted July 15, 2011 I know im stupid and disgusting =(. Im going to test but i have a bad feeling its going to be positive =( all the guys wore a condom and only 2 got off and one of those 2 guys pulled out with the condom on before even getting off. Is it a 1 in a million chance it could be my exes? we didnt use protection at all during my period Link to comment
annie24 Posted July 15, 2011 Share Posted July 15, 2011 We really can't tell you anything. I am sorry. You need to get to the doctor. Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted July 15, 2011 Share Posted July 15, 2011 I know im stupid and disgusting =(. Im going to test but i have a bad feeling its going to be positive =( all the guys wore a condom and only 2 got off and one of those 2 guys pulled out with the condom on before even getting off. Is it a 1 in a million chance it could be my exes? we didnt use protection at all during my period You aren't stupid and disgusting - you just made some really bad choices and need to own up to it. Was the condom broken? Link to comment
Mandolyn Posted July 15, 2011 Author Share Posted July 15, 2011 Thank you so much =) that response made my night it was very nice. Im definitely going to get checked out besides pregnancy. Im dont drinking and definitely wont sleep with another guy after all of this until im married i hope! Link to comment
annie24 Posted July 15, 2011 Share Posted July 15, 2011 1. If you are pregnant, you need to decide if you want to have it or not. Carry it to full term, deliver it, and care for it for 18 years. Or abort it and move on with your life. Adoption is an option as well. Link to comment
iBroken Posted July 15, 2011 Share Posted July 15, 2011 You might be making a mountain out of a molehill if you havent taken a test. Spotting and lateness doesnt always equal pregnancy. Unfortunately, you need to "man up" to your mistakes and take a test to see if you are pregnant. If it comes back positive, then lets start looking through the list of potential fathers. Link to comment
Mandolyn Posted July 15, 2011 Author Share Posted July 15, 2011 None of the condoms broke. Link to comment
annie24 Posted July 15, 2011 Share Posted July 15, 2011 None of the condoms broke. Again, you'll have to take the test to know if you are pregnant. We aren't psychic here. Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted July 15, 2011 Share Posted July 15, 2011 Again, you'll have to take the test to know if you are pregnant. We aren't psychic here. Exactly. I am all for people having sex - love it myself - but unless your married and are okay with getting pregnant, kind of a rule to never have sex while drunk. Ever. Link to comment
Mandolyn Posted July 15, 2011 Author Share Posted July 15, 2011 Exactly. I am all for people having sex - love it myself - but unless your married and are okay with getting pregnant, kind of a rule to never have sex while drunk. Ever. Lesson definitely learned! Im gonna take a test in week and post an update! lets pray its negative =/ Link to comment
mouseno4 Posted July 15, 2011 Share Posted July 15, 2011 I know im stupid and disgusting =(. Im going to test but i have a bad feeling its going to be positive =( all the guys wore a condom and only 2 got off and one of those 2 guys pulled out with the condom on before even getting off. Is it a 1 in a million chance it could be my exes? we didnt use protection at all during my period You are not stupid. Nor are you disgusting. You are normal. Just like everyone else. Nobody - meaning not a single person - is perfect. Everyone makes mistakes. The difference is not that we make mistakes - its how we learn from them. Link to comment
mouseno4 Posted July 15, 2011 Share Posted July 15, 2011 Adoption is an option as well. Good point. I didnt think of that. But I would strongly suggest against that - put yourself in the child's shoes. Would it make you happy knowing your mother carried you to full term and then abandoned you? Sure this isnt my choice - but think outside the box. Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted July 15, 2011 Share Posted July 15, 2011 Good point. I didnt think of that. But I would strongly suggest against that - put yourself in the child's shoes. Would it make you happy knowing your mother carried you to full term and then abandoned you? Sure this isnt my choice - but think outside the box. If a parent can't properly give their child the best in life (or the best of what they can) they are better off going to a family that CAN. If you can barely feed yourself can you really feed yourself and a child? No. Link to comment
Mandolyn Posted July 15, 2011 Author Share Posted July 15, 2011 I just feel like i couldnt do adoption or abortion =/ itd be too painful for me im sure. Me and my ex have been hanging out recently and thinking about getting back together and if im pregnant i dont think i could even possibly tell him that not only it might not be his, but even it could be all those other guys =( but im thinking only 1 of the other ones could be the dad considering hes the only one who came inside me but WITH a condom on, all the others either didnt get off or pulled out with the condom and got off thereselves Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted July 15, 2011 Share Posted July 15, 2011 I just feel like i couldnt do adoption or abortion =/ itd be too painful for me im sure. Me and my ex have been hanging out recently and thinking about getting back together and if im pregnant i dont think i could even possibly tell him that not only it might not be his, but even it could be all those other guys =( but im thinking only 1 of the other ones could be the dad considering hes the only one who came inside me but WITH a condom on, all the others either didnt get off or pulled out with the condom and got off thereselves Although it's debateable, also remember sperm can be in precum. And precum doesn't come out just before he orgasms, it can come at any time. But if the condom didn't break, it's highly unlikely. Again, you can only take a test. Link to comment
annie24 Posted July 15, 2011 Share Posted July 15, 2011 Have you stopped drinking now? You need to do so, and get on pre-natal vitamins ASAP. Link to comment
Mandolyn Posted July 15, 2011 Author Share Posted July 15, 2011 I just confirmed that number 5 and i DID NOT have sex. We just made out. I asked him. I also asked number 2 and we decided theres no way in hell it would be his because he didnt get off and wore a condom, had the same discussion with 4 who pulled out with it on and it didnt break or anything. So i dont think it would be 6 or 7 either because 6 only went in once with a condom, number 7 didnt get off and that was 2 or 3 days before my expected period. im prettyy sure it would have to be my ex or number 3. No protection with ex, and protection with 3 but he probably did get off, i dont think the condom broke though. Nobody has to reply sorry im just scatterbrained and trying to get it all out of my head and onto something i can read to sort it out. Link to comment
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