He's confusing me. Time to give up?

[denise7]

Long story short, I'm a 25 y.o. woman who met a 37 y.o. man when out with some friends at the comedy club. There was instant attraction and chemistry between us both. We can talk about anything when we're together. We run into each other every so often because we have about 5 mutual friends. We have some common interests. I thought he was gonna ask me out but he still hasn't. It's been seven months. I should tell myself it's not gonna happen right? He's already got my number and doesn't have a problem texting me just to say hi.

 

He broke up with his girlfriend 2 months ago. They dated for 5 years. I haven't seen him in two weeks. He's on vacation overseas in the States. If he wanted to ask me out, he would've already done it right? No, he's not the only guy out there but I like him alot and know he feels the same way about me. I'm just tired of hoping that he's gonna ask me out. It's discouraging. I think it's time for me to stop thinking about this and move on. It's possible I misread the signs, but I know I didn't in this case cuz his sister told me he likes me. Guys, if you wanted to really be with a woman, you would make it happen right? And no, I'm not gonna ask him out because he confuses the heck out of me. Things have been a little awkward between us over the last few weeks. Or at least I think he feels awkward. I don't feel that way. Can anyone provide some kind of insight into my situation? Thanks in advance.

[Eocsor]

He's been out of a significant relationship for two months. If he's a wise man, he'll take some time away from the dating scene for a while. A lot of people like to take time off after a major breakup. Otherwise, they enter into the dreaded rebound relationship which could be you at this stage. Stay friends for now. Odds are any relationship now would have a short shelf life.

[annie24]

I don't see any reason why you can't ask him out when he gets back from the US. Ask to see photos he took over coffee.

[Ms Darcy]

From your "exhaustion" it sounds like you have wanted him to ask you out for seven months. He's only been single for two and people do need heal-time. Try thinking of his perspective for a change and not just what you want. Give him time and make a move.

[catfeeder]

Two months is too soon for most people straight out of a 5 year relationship. I wouldn't chomp at the bit making myself nuts to line up as somebody's rebound. If he dates you before he's ready, you'll get your heart broken. Why not date other guys? If this one is ever ready to start dating you, he knows how to reach you.