What do you do?

[joswsieg]

What do you do when your feeling down or sad about missing your ex? How do you distract yourself or make yourself feel better? Specifically at night time when youre alone and cant workout or talk to other people.

[blackhawks1287]

All I can say is, your ex is not the only thing can made you happy or provided laughs...

 

Do things that make you laugh that you enjoy...the internet is literally endless when your in a time of solitude...

[hello678]

You will find the problem isn't that you miss your ex per se, its that you miss having someone to talk to and laugh with. The ex just provided that.

 

Try and talk to friends who help you get through, but sometimes as hard as it is you just have to acknowledge that you feel bad and there is nothing you can do about it.

 

I usually use it as motivation to get into work.

[thejigsup]

Call a friend, play a computer or video game, eat some ice cream or a yummy salad, work on a jigsaw puzzle or a crossword puzzle, watch a comedian on t.v., get a pet or if you have one, play with it, work out to an exercise video, listen to one of your favorite cd's, read a good book...the possibilities are endless!

[motleylou]

I remember nights were the worst for a long time. I would literally bug my friends and family until the point of exhaustion. If you live with anyone, just spend time around them until you literally can't keep your eyes open. The worst thing to do is just sit, I couldnt watch tv by myself because my mind would drift. I had to either be talking to someone or be doing something active that required me to think. I would play guitar or video games a lot. And also I would read the forums I probably have a bachelors degree for all the time I spent of here after my breakup. There's nothing more comforting than reading other peoples stories and realizing you're not the only one goin through this. And it also makes me feel better when I post like this to try and help someone out. In time it will pass Ive come so far in 2 months an the last 2 weeks especially. Just keep your mind occupied and also set a limit, say tonight I'm only going to think about her for 15 minutes then I'm done. Once 15 minutes is up get up and go do something. Worse comes to worse takes some advil pm, seriously for me when I was having those really bad nights. 2 of those would put me out in 30 minutes and it was better than spending the next 4 hours replaying every event from the breakup for the 103 time. Keep plugging away each week will be better you'll see.

[chitown9]

What do you do when your feeling down or sad Specifically at night time when youre alone and cant workout or talk to other people.

 

You don't need to be alone at night. There is no reason why you cannot workout at night. Many people belong to a gym and the only time they have to workout is after work=at night. Also, many classes are offered at night at community colleges. Do you want to learn a foreign language, for example? These classes are offered at night. Life does not stop because it is night. Maybe what you need to do is pry yourself out of the house at night.......chi

[DaveCummings]

joswsieg,

 

I don't think it's necessarily meant to come easy is it. I mean I know I have my good days and my bad days and do I have my bad days. No amount of booze ever would change that and no amount of compulsion for that matter. I know though that what does work for me is to be creative, inspired or inclined to do anything that gets my energy focused on something positive. It's not always a failsafe, but it's better than sitting and becoming too preoccupied by them. I find it's too easy to go down a rabbit hole of sorrow and turmoil. Which again is far from what I want. I couldn't imagine becoming lost,, so I do everything I can to prevent that. I too, have my nights though...

[Snowy]

Talking to a friend helps A LOT.

 

That's what friends are for, right?

 

When you feel down, you turn to your friends.

[Snuggly]

Cry

Play computer games

study

watch youtube

watch comedy channel

play with pets

ring people in different time zones

for the first 6 months its mainly crying for me, but doing better now

[joswsieg]

These are all good ideas.