she always wants to hang out / she using me? video of her at dinner and me

[elmoreb]

Okay need some advice

 

met this girl like friday when she moved in next door....

 

she needed a ride to walmart i gave it to her but before i did, she cought glimpse into my room and saw my musical keyboard and marched in practically... saying she sings!! this and that... im like reallly?? awesome, been lookin for talent etc...

 

we go to walmart but before she invites me into her room, her clothes still bagged up and starts telling me how shes from new york, etc.. had a super sweet 16! know alicia keys....um, showing me her clothes, etc... Im just happy to look at her, i know it smell bullshi*tee...

 

Anyway she finally is reay to go we get to walmart and she couldnt find a bathing suit that she could like, of course, its walmart, then shes asks to go accross the street. to citi trends where she practically picks out a purse, pants, jewelery, sun glassess, etc... everyhing cept a bathing suit...

 

telling me she admits she a shopaholic and all, im just like well if you can afford to be then its all good...

 

after like 30 mins of stylish shopping we have to checkout cuz stores closing... its like $160 somthig worth of stuff... im like "God" ... she hands over a credit card and guess what.... its denied, shes like it cant be, there was just $800 on there.... the ladies like hun call them they should resolve it quickly for you, instead she turns to me, and says can i buy it she promises when we get back to our complex she'll give it to me.... Im like * * * no.... but she pleds and pleads and she knew I had money becuse i stupidly wanted to show off before we got to walmart even, because I just so happened to have like $800 in my pocket at that moment, and lets just say --- it wasnt "my hard earned"....

 

So im like keeping cool, trying to figure out how to say NO. well i was but wasnt stern about it, im like come back tomorrow they'll hold it.

 

she was like noooooo. ill give it all back to you, come on, I just decided to HELP her knowing it wasn't like my money anyway...and if she screws me, oh well, im not broke... and probably deserve that karma.

 

so we get back to the complex and im like okay get the money she gets it from another neighbor, this big black guy who lays ashfault, and * * * * ... she claims she didnt * * * him to get the $100 she came back with... claiming the other $65 to be paid back on monday... im suprised she auctually gave me that!! so i was in shock expecting to be screwed over... and then shes like wanna still hang out? Im like sure...

 

we go to applebees shes siging to me on the way there like right into my ear, sexily, and i got my free hand al over her body, breasts, crotch area, etc... she had me feeling soo nice i could drive very good, even one handedly... we are basiclly like having sex in the parking lot prior to entering applebees windows down ppl could hear her singing and me just rubbing her brests together. before i realized this. and we walk in to and there we eat/have a drink/talk/clicked/no awkardness. etc...

 

I paid the bill of course, we leave...

 

go back to our complex, hang out all night making music on my keyboard, i tell her she can sleep in my room, my beds bigger and all, hah, she was tired this is like at 2am and she had told me she was going to church the next day and I should take her, etc... I would have but didnt get up when i heard her knocking at like 9am the next morning.... heh...

 

See she has no car.... but made it there anyway...

 

Next day, shes back over claiming how her brothers gonna get locked up and go to prison and was crying, on mybed... i was just looking into her eyes, like i felt for her, then she suggested we go out and back to applebees as that drink was really good,etc...

 

Im like okay, but before we go she shows me these christian rap videos on her phone that are Relly powerful, showing pictures of jesus as this white guy raps, that are passion of the christ like and she was crying and i had to struggle not to let a tear slip.

 

Anyway we get to applebees and shes all blinged out as you see in the video...but we couldnt drink bcos they realized her lisence says underage and eventho shes of age new policiy makes them unable to serve her anyway... so she doesnt drink, i dont, i dont even eat... i let her get whatever she got...

 

$8 bill paid it and decide to buy drinks elseware before returning to my ROOM obviously... i get her smirnoff, she drinks it, then asks to go to walmart again, before we get back, and i said fine, not sure why? but i needed condoms anyway, so i take her, she starts complaining about her high heels are killing her, etc..

 

long story short she was after a bathing suit again, but of course before i know it has a pile of stuff in her hands by the time i secretly buy some condoms, im like i know u got no money, and i aint buying all that sh* shes good tho, i mean IF i was getting some that night, who care? thats what i was expecting for certain would happen... she'll owe me, you knwo... well i only had my debit card and it didnt even have $40 to cover her junk...i told her IF i knew we'd be coming here, i coulda pickedup money from the room,, etc... she kinda mad she has to put stuff back, we leave...

 

She messing on my keyboard and like plunges headfirst into it while im massaging her. claiming shes soo tired, and im like what? come on! but she was either drunk or a really good actor, she would try to leave but was tugging at the wrong side of my door, couldnt even get into her room nextdoor,i had to use her key etc.. then when in her room, she like starts undressing into a gown she slips into leting me briefly catch a glimpse of her privates in the raw.. then grabs a "snack" a bag of something and gets into bed... im standing there and shes like "nooooooo..." all innocently... dont look at meeeeeee....noooo..... then my animal instrinct is like coming out, im like trying to get into bed with her and shes like nooooo but no one not even mybaby can get in my bed... im like dont worry, you'll have a good time, and shes like nooooo gooooo, but not like in an angry way but enough to make me start to feel like fine, i guess she just wants me to go... she said... something bad will happen if you stay any longer... im like what? somethinggggg baddddd she says.... "I miggght * * * * you..." and im like "thats not bad' shes like 'yeaaa it is" "im like come on" shes like no really i dont wannabe tired when i * * * you.... im like fine fine, i leave, pissed.... but should have stayed, right? thats one of those NO moments where i doubt she was serious.... i just didnt wanna make her uneasy, but then again, i now realize girls want you to go for it when they say nooo "with lightness" to their voice...am I wrong?

 

Anyway monday shes back over hitting up my phone at 9 while im in classs... i dont call her back or anything cuz im still kinda mad.... around the evening she over with tickets to golden corral, long story short, we get there and her vouchers arent good for a free meal, like she claimed, and im like NO im not paying for us to EAT her now just bcos "were here' im starting to feel scammed... and more untrusting... then im like lets go, and she says some smart comments, blah blah..

 

now she wants US to go to new york this weekend, ocean city lastnight... i told her I dont have any more money, etc... shes like what if i get some? im like fine....she keeps calling me daily, wanting to do stuff, is she using me? I mean we have a good time, i do like her despite her high tastes, but how can I know if this is somehow her way of saying i like being with you? i mean... i just dont know...

 

am i that bad looking? see me here and be HONEST:

 

nevermind I can post videos or LINKS, what the heck? I had video clip of her and pics of me, this bites....wouldve allowed better feedback.... whatever,

 

somethings not good about me, right???? Why else do i have such TROUBLE WITH WOMEN.... they wanna tease me, let me get close to what i want... then just keep me kinda pissed.... lol.... i would just toss her but I really like her she reminds me of my mom in all my moms good qualities, style, makeup, fashion, etc... i mean my dad does this kinda spending on my mom, so i mean... arent men suppost to open the wallet at least sometimes? if they expect to keep a lady happy? i mean i know were not married were pretty comfortabl around each othr...my dad has to buy my mom her exspensive dresess, hair done, nail done, racks of shoes, hell everything so I mean i dont know. this girl is after all is asking me to just take her to the boardwalk, times square, etc... id love to do these, guess maybe because i dont make 5 figures like my dad, i feel its on me, and i dont know....feel used... and i tried telling her that day i had all that money was pretty much evidence that im not the sweet guy she thinks i am.... as truthfully, "it wasnt my hard earned....." dont ask me what that means....

 

i do have fun with her, its just since i KNOW i gatta flip the bill how do i not know if im being suckered or not? shes good for conversation, gives me her attention, just say for instance walking the boardwalk with her, or being asked out to do so, sounds fun on the surface but i know her all to well already shes goona see 1millions things she'll HAVE to have on the boardwalk, that i dont got money for... hell...

 

what do i need to do? she calls me, all the time, i sit back, trying to forget about her, i mean if i was rich or even a job, i wouldnt care, she could get her little things, but hell, we havent even fu*d yet so thats my issue and still kinda mad about it i dont really wanna consider going out anywhere....cuz tho they are fun things she proposes, if im paying, man, i want sex.

 

ive known her what 5 days or so? but everyday that passing is it less likely from happeing? i mean we basially had sex in the car on day 1.... and she keeps doing the persuing here, i just dont know if its legitmiate or alternatively motivated...

 

thoughts? please

 

i'll clarify areas i probbly have confusing... but i had to get the situation out first... hopefully it can be understood without a rewrite. im sure she'll call me today, auctually she already did, i just dont wanna TURN her off with my suspicions of her wanting to be with me out of money only or something...because i dont know if thats it, she knows shes not getting anything hefty from me and im getting bitter... but she keeps calling sounding like she seriously may like me its just her ideas are pricey and stuff... am i being just paranoid? she obviously has HIGH TASTE...

 

 

thanks

[Kitkat973]

1. Continuing when someone says no is rape. Flat-out.

 

2. Trying to post video of her on here is honestly creepy.

 

3. It sounds like she's using you for money.

[blackhawks1287]

You are paying for things because you want sex...

 

You are doing this to yourself not because you really like her, but because you like the idea of having sex with her...

 

Drop her and learn how to treat a girl respectfully without the hidden agenda of...well I will do this, this, and this...secretly buy condoms because after all I have done I should get some, and then not really get any and get mad about it...

 

Wow...

[elmoreb]

auctually as i was composing the original post, from the colllege library, and had my phone ringer off, she called me at least twice...

 

then when i get back home, knock knock... I smiled glad to see her, she was just as happy to see me....

 

- told me everything she did yesterday,

 

- has a social worker helping her get a job, had an offer $15/hr at perdue... $25 down the road... but its too far and she doesnt drive...

 

- going to start talking to a therapist about what she admitted to me on day 1 - shopping addiction.... lol

 

- i told her good bcos i wouldnt mind taking her places like ocean city, if I didnt think she'd want everything in sight... and she said "oh nooo... id never do that to you..."

 

I mean we both like each other.... sparkles in the eyes...

 

she said she was going to a concert, someone like Shania Twain or something like her...and a friends friends parent was giving her a ride... but I could come? and she'd tell them she has a ride....I said how much is it? she said free for the concert... but only cost $ if you eat dinner with her or something... hehe, I was like no thanks, we'll do something later.... go on and have fun.... she said U sure? I was...

 

later that night i txt her, "Hey babe, let me know when ur free. dont know about trips to NY yet - to far for a one day trip...but id love to take you to baltimore or ocean city...Good times well have...."

 

instantly get a reply txt "Can't wait"

 

so It seems as if I had it wrong? Clearly...

 

then this morning she was knocking on my door hard at like 7amish but i wasnt getting out of bed yet.... class was at 8, but hell, needed every last minute i could get... plus i wsnt dressed, not that that mattered... i guess tonight ill find out what that was about...

 

advice, suggestiions? im all ears....

[elmoreb]

Auctually, to reply to second replier... I like the idea of having sex with her because I AUCTUALLY really do like her!! Thats why.... really, personality, looks, all perfect.... just about sex, then id just pickup 'something' and it'd mean just that 'nothing' ..... jeez cus a guy really wants to make love to her badly doesnt mean its me only im thinking of... you know how you think you just know when you'd see the right one you could marry? I never though id be able to tell, i thought well so many of them, i wont ever know, etc.. naw man, you know.... its kinda like you know the right apartment when you see it, sure others could Work, but you just kinda "feel" this one, and its seemingly compatible... kinda thing... of course no one knows what may come, if anything, but i can sense, i connection, she value my smartness, i dont have to chase her down...force her to call me or wanna do things...i know she'll wanna do practiclly anything withme, she doesnt take about other guys i mean non of the stuff iffy ppl do...shes always apologetic and religious to the point that i never expected my MOMs dream wife for me could auctually be... i mean she even has my moms name... so if she did marry me, haha, my dad and I would both have the same names and wifes the same name, lol. its like everything down to the way she makes faces reminds me of my mom, even looks like her... i mean she just is too compatible and ive been with or talked too many that are like 'uggg' -- only * * * able...this one, its not about the sex really.... its the scaryiness of how every fiber tells me this is the one dude.... and im someone who never wanted to marry and consider 'settling down' or want someone with a kid.... and mom told me, dont ever rule a girl out because she has a kid... "it just means she didnt have an abortion..." and i kinda rolled my eyes like yeah right, i dont wanna deal with some trashy dads mess... but i mean i could care less... it doesnt matter...i dunno, i auctually wish i didnt feel this way and or that it wasnt seeming to be mutal, bocs it makes it only worse...othr girls are nothing but possibly good looks...

[Unwanted]

Why would you feel the need to post a video of her on here after your post? That's a breach of her privacy, so I suggest you don't do it before your balls get busted behind bars. Just sayin...

[magnoliatree]

Eww do NOT post videos of her. That's creepy and wrong.