Elisian Posted July 13, 2011 Share Posted July 13, 2011 I've got a question for any guys out there, though girls can help out too, if a girl came up to you at the gym that you had never talked to before looking kind of nervous and she said 'I run into you a lot and I feel like there is a connection somewhere, do you know "person X"?' And you didn't know who they are talking about, so you say no, and they look confused and say 'oh never mind then' and just leave, what would you think? Thanks! Link to comment
slammin16 Posted July 13, 2011 Share Posted July 13, 2011 That she is hitting on you.... Link to comment
Elisian Posted July 13, 2011 Author Share Posted July 13, 2011 Would most guys get that? Would it be pretty obvious? I'd like to get something of a poll on this. Link to comment
arrakis77 Posted July 13, 2011 Share Posted July 13, 2011 No, it's not always obvious and not all guys pick up or act on it. Without the non-verbal clues it's impossible to say if this was an icebreaker or bland inquiry however, the "I feel like there is a connection somewhere" was an interesting choice of words. I think it was an attempt to start a conversation. Link to comment
Capricorn3 Posted July 14, 2011 Share Posted July 14, 2011 That she is hitting on you.... That was my thought too. She's probably been eyeing you for some time and finally got the courage to step up and talk to you. Looks like it didn't work for her. Link to comment
arrakis77 Posted July 14, 2011 Share Posted July 14, 2011 Assuming that this happened to the OP and that he thought she was attractive, I recommend going back to her with the same line and a big smile on my face. Link to comment
Elisian Posted July 14, 2011 Author Share Posted July 14, 2011 Thanks guys Now here's the spoiler, I changed the story around to get an outsiders perspective, I was the one who said that to a guy at the gym who I could swear likes me from the looks he gives me every time we run into each other outside of the gym (and a few times in it). And arrakis, you were right, it was intended to start a conversation, but he totally threw me off when he didn't recognize the name of his RA, who happens to be my best friend and who says she knows him. I had intended to ask him out to lunch and use that as the conversation starter, but he threw me for a loop and I wasn't prepared, but I was hoping and unsure if he got that I like him. Today he was at the gym again when I was there, and he kept choosing to use equipment accross from wherever I would be. At one point he was pacing back and forth looking really nervous and it would have been a perfect opportunity for him to approach me, but then he didn't. I think next time I run into him I'll say something to the effect of sorry, I forgot to ask you your name and do you want to grab something to eat? What do you think? Link to comment
Capricorn3 Posted July 14, 2011 Share Posted July 14, 2011 I was the one who said that to a guy at the gym I think next time I run into him I'll say something to the effect of sorry, I forgot to ask you your name and do you want to grab something to eat? What do you think? I notice that you are male too, which could be a problem, in that unless you KNOW he is gay, he might be really freaked out by you coming back again a second time and asking him out to lunch etc. This can be a very delicate situation, so tread carefully. Personally, I would wait until HE approaches you, and if he doesn't, then you more or less have your answer (imo). Link to comment
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