Words for the first timers :)

[biggestdork]

First let me tell you guys that I am no expert. Most people here who have read my stories might even think Im somewhat an * * * * * * * . Ill admit I did some stupid things in the past year.

I just think sometimes people get caught up with their emotions, and this forum just becomes one big stack of depression - The more you read, the more depressed you get. So I thought Id post something light. Ive read many good posts that gave me better better perspective on things and I have to say that I enjoy reading the more positive threads.

 

Anyway back to the topic...

 

Congratulations! You have now experienced a necessary step for you to become a better, more well-rounded person.

Everyone goes through it at least once in his/her life time. People have been dealing with heartbreaks for ages. Its nothing new. If you ask the people here who are at the place they want to be, they will tell you the same thing.

 

Sure you didnt want it to happen, but it did.. because it needed to. When you look back at this, you will notice the mistakes youve made, and you will learn from them. Whether it would be about relationships, break-ups, the opposite genders, or even yourself and how you live your life, you will be viewing things from a different perspective. You will know more about yourself than you ever did. For most of you, it will be a life changing experience.

 

If you think you were lucky when your ex came along, it just means you dont believe you can find some one better. This is why you need to take actions to work on yourself. Dont be lazy, as this requires real effort. If you think that nobody wants you, try to make changes.

 

Think about this: Would you want to be with some one like you at your current state?

Focus on becoming a better person and people will be more interested in you, and hey maybe your ex might change his/her mind and beg for you to come back (but who cares - by this time, you wouldnt want him/her back anyway >

 

You will be wiser when that next person that comes along. You will make more mistakes - it wont be perfect, but things will be easier.

Everything will be okay in the end.

If it's not okay, it's not the end.

[Snuggly]

Good advice. When I look back i realise there were problems in our relationship all along, I just ignored them because I loved him. He dumped me, it hurt more than anything ever hurt in my whole life. But now I am becoming someone better than I was. I am more resiliant, self confident and I like the fact that I have the freedom to do whatever I want in my life now. And when I meet someone awesome, I'll be able to recognise and do something about it

 

He devastated my life, but he actually did me a huge favour It does get better

[motleylou]

I agree 100% with both posts, I was really naive about the problems in my last relationship and should of handled things a lot different. I didn't because I was afraid to lose her because she was my first real true love who I saw a future with. Had I experienced this before I don't know if it would of changed the outcome. But it did teach me a TON about myself and what I look for in a girl. I grew up a lot during that time and have experienced real relationship loss. I also now know the signs and red flags to watch out for and will handle things better and speak up more when these red flags show themselves. Nothing beats experience and like was already said everyone goes through it. It's how you deal with it and come out of it that really matters. A heartbreak can either crush you or make you stronger and smarter.

[NatashaIsJam]

Thank you for posting this. I'm going through a break up and it's really hard, but its nice to hear that things will get better. I know this was the right thing to do, but that doesn't mean it hurts any less. It's hard to walk away from someone who has been your everything for such a long time, but I know that this relationship wasn't going anywhere and it was never going to work out. I hope that in the future I will learn from the mistakes I made this time around and that I will be a stronger person because of this.