fwbs.....Could some advice please

[slammin16]

So I have been seeing this girl for a few months now. We are not dating and not in a committed relationship. We are good friends but we have had sex 5 0r 6 times.

 

We have both agreed we did not want anything serious because a: I am not ready for a serious relationship and B: she has 2 kids. She has her own reasons too.

 

We talk regularly and are open with each other with many things.

 

So I helped her move like 10 days ago ( I took the day off work and she would of been screwed if I wasnt there to help her and I gave her a t.v and couch because she needed them) We went out that night had a good time and said our good byes at the end of the night..

 

Now we havent spoken since, so I decided to text her yesterday to see how she was doing. No response.

 

Now don't get me wrong, I have been kind to her because I care and am not looking for anything in return but I am pissed she is not responding ( she always responds right away)

 

She is in the middle of a divorce and with 2 kids i understand she is busy but I cant help think well maybe she is trying to work things out with her ex or maybe she found someone else but we are friends and I thought friends talk about these things.

 

I am thinking of sending her a message like " I am not sure why your not replying but I thought I a least deserved an explanation of why we are not talking anymore, if not have a good summer"

 

something down those lines, what do you think??

 

thanks

[abitbroken]

Sure sounds like you are in a relationship to me - sex, helping someone move, talking about feelings, etc. I think that sleeping with or dating someone who is in the middle of a divorce is too messy. I would really leave her be until she is legally free to be in a relationship. Also, if she is not emotionally ready for a relationship, she seems to be using you. You are doing everything a boyfriend does without her having to acknowledge you.

 

btw, if you are upset about her not responding - you were only in a fwb, no? So you can't care about that. If you feel this is more, then talk to her. If is going througn a bad divorce, maybe she feels she can't talk right now if she is trying to reconcile with her husband, the kids are demanding her time, or there is drama,

[dali]

I don't think you should send that text, it wont play well. sounds you do want something in return, she maybe bus? fact is you don't know whats going through her mind.

[Day_Walker]

I dont think that you should send the text, she will either contact you or she wont. For all means be upset for her not contacting you but sending that text message will do you no good.