wow he is such an <removed>!!!

[Sweetkisses22]

So we got into a fight about a week ago. I made the mistake of texting him on thursday. He said he misses me and still loves me. We then started talking about getting back together and starting over. So I said how could we make it back to where we were after everything. He said well talk it one step at a time. Well he said he'd call me later cause he was busy at work. That we would figure things out when he called. I waited for his call and he never did. So I text him the next day at night saying thanks for not calling, you haven't changed one bit so just forget it. He responds right away saying im busy!! Im like how could you be busy for two whole days to call me? If you really loved me and wanted a second chance you would have jumped at the opportunity. He's like ill talk to you soon! I replied saying yea sure, I wont hold my breath. I never heard from him since. Its been 3 days. Im so angry! Why does he do this!?

[annie24]

you know that he's a liar and who knows what else. don't fall into this trap!!!

[Sweetkisses22]

Idky I keep taking him back! Im just so fed up with his aditide. Everything is his way! He doesn't even care. He says he still loves me and wants to try but then never calls to talk about it. I just feel worthless cause of him.

[annie24]

hun - you are young, you have no kids together, you're long distance, there's really really no reason you need to put up with this. you told me he was a liar too and you went along with his lies.

[Sweetkisses22]

And he had the nerve yell at me saying I don't love him cause I was talking to another guy after we broke up. He s like you've moved on and that he never did. We've been broken up 3 months! Im sure he's been talking to girls too!

[Sweetkisses22]

I know I know its just so hard to let go.

[annie24]

this is the man that you are not sure where he lives or works??? i'm sorry, but you need to spend some time thinking about why you would get into all this drama. you need to focus on yourself and figure out why you think you don't deserve better than this.

[magnoliatree]

I think that it would have been better when you contacted him the next day to ask him why he wasn't able to get back to you, instead of just straight up accusing him of things. (Mind you, I don't know your backstory, just judging off of your original post here).

[magnoliatree]

Wait you don't know where he lives or works?? I'm confused.

[annie24]

Wait you don't know where he lives or works?? I'm confused.

 

yes, they dated long distance, but he was always very secretive about where he lives and works, she knows neither, to the best of my knowledge. this guy is all around shady.

[Eocsor]

I know it's hard but you need to let go of this guy. He's a habitual liar, you are long distance and it wouldn't surprise me if he had another relationship with a girl in the city he lives in. You need to grab some self respect and realise you are worth more than that. No one should put up with that crap.

[magnoliatree]

I know it's hard but you need to let go of this guy. He's a habitual liar, you are long distance and it wouldn't surprise me if he had another relationship with a girl in the city he lives in. You need to grab some self respect and realise you are worth more than that. No one should put up with that crap.

 

I agree with Eocsor and Annie.

[Stampedingwolf]

One thing I've noticed about guys is that you have to watch them like a hawk and read their body language, their smiles, what they say and how they say it, how they speak, and how they act in general. If you can read how somebody carries them self, you can almost tell what kind of person they are just by paying attention to small things like that. I always hear the idiom "Don't Judge a book by it's cover" and that's true, but...most young people seem to be extremely outspoken and have this manner about them when they communicate with their "Friends". Fact of the matter is...when you present yourself, you're showing your personality, and that can reveal even your life style.

[Sweetkisses22]

Yup he hid everything from me. I had to find out on my own. He lied said he worked in stock well I found out he works in construction still. No idea why he would lie about something so dumb. Then he said he moved to another city. But whenever I visit him we always stay in the old city. So I don't believe him. He swears hrs always telling the truth he begs me not to leave says hr will prove it to me. Well I stay with him and then he never ends up proving it he just says I need to believe him for once. He said MY PROBLEM is that I have trust issues! I've never had trust issues with him until he started lying about stuff.

 

Its like I can't let go of him. We were together for a year. In the beginning things were fine but they got really bad after I started accusing him of lying. He says he's had enough of me not believing him but he has never proved anybody these lyes so that makes him more of a liar to me. I did try to move on. We've been broken up for 3a months. The first month I didn't contact him at all. I wad feeling good without him in my life but then in the 2nd month he was calling me and telling me he missed me. He wanted me back. So I was stupid and said ok well talk about getting back together but then he'd completely leave me hanging and we never ended up having the talk about getting back together cause we always end up arguing abouybsomething new.

[annie24]

he lies to you about everything, even the most basic things (where he lives and works). how can you even trust a word out of his mouth or continue to talk to him?? i wouldn't believe a word he says.

[Edmund Exley]

You have been with this guy for a year and have no idea where he lives and works?

 

You dont see something inherently wrong with that? This guy could have a whole family, married, kids etc and be hiding that alll from you. I mean, you know the guys is a habitual liar, who knows what he is covering up.

 

I honestly wonder why you are bothering to post here. Obviously you chose to ignore all advice and just reply "I just cant let go"

 

Then dont let go.........you will learn this one on your own one day.