Need advice!

[Jesigrl77]

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and we just moved in together. I was on his computer a few months ago and was typing in a search word in google. When I typed in the first letter recent search suggestions came up and it was the name of his ex girl. I asked him about it and he gave me' some answer that was crap. That he was just looking up her and her new bf to see where they live because he never wants to run into her. They had a really bad break up because of her cheating and I guess he is still hurt. I let it go. But lately I became suspicious because he is always on the phone and computer. I don't like snooping but I just couldn't help it after the whole searching for his ex. I looked in the computer history last night and he has been looking at old naked pictures of his ex he saved on his email. I know he looks at porn and I don't care if it was any other girl but the fact that it's his ex really bothers me and I cant help but be hurt. I feel like I can't say anything because it will look bad on me' for snooping. I know he would never take her back but why is he still looking at pictures of her when he could look at any other porn that's not his ex. I cant help but act upset and he asks me' what's wrong and I just say im tired and now he's mad that I won't tell him what's bothering me'.. Anyone have any advice what to do??

[Blue Skittles]

Even though what he is doing is wrong (looking at his ex) what you are doing is wrong too, snooping into his own personal space. So, you have a decision to make, if you talk to him about it then he is going to get upset with you for snooping. Personally, if I were in this situation, I would recognize that he is not over his ex girlfriend and I would leave the relationship. I don't want to be the "back-up plan, rebound girl".

[Jd1983]

He's looking at pictures of her because he's not over her.

 

I think you should seriously have a talk with him and find out what's going on. Don't settle for less than you deserve.