Dating a lesbian, and I am bi!

[laurelme]

Well like the title says, I am bi! She has said that she never messes around with bisexual girls because they have a habit of going back to men. And she keeps making comments. For example, during intimate moments, she made a statement, that completely ruined the moment, I just laid next to her, and didnt say anything. I really do like this girl, but if its continually going to be comments, I can do this. It kind of makes me not feel good enough.

 

I have thought about talking to her next time we hang out, and see what she says. Maybe it will work.

 

has anyone else ever had this problem? How did you handle it? any advice?

[metrogirl]

Well like the title says, I am bi! She has said that she never messes around with bisexual girls because they have a habit of going back to men. And she keeps making comments. For example, during intimate moments, she made a statement, that completely ruined the moment, I just laid next to her, and didnt say anything. I really do like this girl, but if its continually going to be comments, I can do this. It kind of makes me not feel good enough.

 

I have thought about talking to her next time we hang out, and see what she says. Maybe it will work.

 

has anyone else ever had this problem? How did you handle it? any advice?

 

But she did mess around with a bi girl (you) so she needs to treat you like she would treat a girlfriend. Would she feel better if you cheated with another girl as opposed to a guy? Her thought process doesn't make sense to me other than she just wants to say mean things to you which isn't cool at all.

[greywolf]

Talk to her and tell her how you feel.

[lukeb]

Next girl that you want to just mess around with, don't tell her you're bi.

[mouseno4]

Well that is a combination i never thought of. Bi girl dating a lesbian. O_o

[laurelme]

If that is all I wanted then you might be on the right track. But I dont think you are, I need advice...

[chocolatemilk]

Make sure she knows you're bisexual and let the chips fall where they may.

 

I don't advocate lying as Lukeb suggested, she and everyone else should have the right to choose, for whatever reason, rightly or wrongly who they will or won't get involved with.

[TomboyMS]

Tell her that her comments make you feel bad and ask her to stop.

[buddha55]

tell her that maybe she never dates bi girls because her comments push them away... she could be pushing someone really great away.