How to move to the next step

[stronger4432]

I have talked to this girl before and we both showed some interest in each other but it was only over text. That was a year ago but then i got into a different relationship. Now that relationship has ended and i have been texting this girl again. I have talked about meeting up and she wanted to as well. Our days havent matched up though and she did ask me out to dinner one night but i had to tell her i was busy and i actually was. When i text her though sometimes she doesnt reply back for a couple days so obviously texting isnt working very well. I am busy until saturday but then would like to try and see this girl and she seems to be pretty busy as well. How should i proceed?

[MadxMythMadame]

Maybe you should stop texting and actually call her? Texting is so impersonal and I think that it's not a huge step up, but it is a step.

[stronger4432]

So maybe just call her next week when im done with my thing on saturday and suggest a day to go out?

[MadxMythMadame]

So maybe just call her next week when im done with my thing on saturday and suggest a day to go out?

 

Well, I guess if that's the only time you have, but do you really want to wait about a week? With thoughts that she's busy to by not a small meet-up? It doesn't have to be anything big. A nice 15 min. to an hour coffee date. A drink. I don't think it has be the whole package with the words "ROMANTIC DATE" stamped on it. Since your both very busy and text constantly, it would be efficient to have something simple and light as well as flexible.

[stronger4432]

Ok so maybe call her this week and suggest getting together maybe just in the middle of the day or night for something quick. Should i leave a voicemail if she is at work or something? And if the day i suggest she isnt free should i just cut the call and leave it to her to initiate a day she is free?

[MadxMythMadame]

Why don't you ask her what day she's available? I'm sure it wouldn't hurt you to move a thing or two to cater to her schedule a little bit. Well, actually, it might, but a little sacrifice to gain that step up right? It's perfectly fine to ask her though a voicemail. If anything, it's perfect for her because she's a busy woman.

[stronger4432]

Well i just dont want to give the impression that im available whenever and have no life making me seem boring and needy and all that jazz.

[MadxMythMadame]

I don't think so. I'm sure whatever you guys talk about on text or on a possible date wouldn't make it seem like that. I only suggested it because it's chivalrous. That one detail, that one question will not suddenly make her think you're needy. If anything, interested. I'm sure she gets the idea that you're just as busy as she is because you guys have tried to schedule something and your schedules clash.

 

Don't think too much about it. Just let it happen. See what she says. And react.

[Ms Darcy]

Maybe you should stop texting and actually call her? Texting is so impersonal and I think that it's not a huge step up, but it is a step.

 

Amen. All this texting doesn't make it seem like you are reall interested in her.

[Ms Darcy]

Well i just dont want to give the impression that im available whenever and have no life making me seem boring and needy and all that jazz.

 

I think instead of trying to play games, you should call her and set up a date. This is ridiculous.