joswsieg Posted July 11, 2011 Share Posted July 11, 2011 So I should have listened to my ENA buddies..but... I thought my situation was unique for some reason. I texted her today and all I said was "Hey B******* it's J***. How are you?" Guess what she said... NOTHING! That's right.. I got absolutely no response! This set me back a little bit and I feel pretty crappy right now. I promised myself that if she didn't answer this text that I wouldn't try to contact her ever again... we'll see how that one works out... Link to comment
metrogirl Posted July 11, 2011 Share Posted July 11, 2011 She may very well have ignored the text or perhaps she didn't get it. That happens sometimes too. In any event, if you are at a place in your life where you are trying to move on from her, contacting her and possibly getting rejected is only going to set you back further. Tomorrow is a new day. Link to comment
Mellie Posted July 11, 2011 Share Posted July 11, 2011 I hope her name begins with "B" It's done now. Don't beat yourself up about it. If you don't get a response, you know what you have to do. Not necessarily move house, but you have to move on. Link to comment
Stay_home Posted July 11, 2011 Share Posted July 11, 2011 So I should have listened to my ENA buddies..but... I thought my situation was unique for some reason. I texted her today and all I said was "Hey B******* it's J***. How are you?" Guess what she said... NOTHING! That's right.. I got absolutely no response! This set me back a little bit and I feel pretty crappy right now. I promised myself that if she didn't answer this text that I wouldn't try to contact her ever again... we'll see how that one works out... Next time call and leave a message. Cell phones are very crappy at times, but it's seldom if ever a person does not receive a voicemail message. Perhaps the missed call won't display, but the voice message usually will. Link to comment
Mellie Posted July 11, 2011 Share Posted July 11, 2011 I wouldn't do any more jos. I think you can fairly safely assume she got it. Link to comment
sunnz Posted July 11, 2011 Share Posted July 11, 2011 Sometimes timing...leave it for now... Link to comment
joswsieg Posted July 11, 2011 Author Share Posted July 11, 2011 OK she just texted me back... didnt expect this... she said "I know your number. Do you need something?" What should I do now? Link to comment
Stay_home Posted July 11, 2011 Share Posted July 11, 2011 OK she just texted me back... didnt expect this... she said "I know your number. Do you need something?" What should I do now? Well, what really is the purpose of you talking to her? Because it sounds like she's not very enthused to talk to you. Link to comment
Mellie Posted July 11, 2011 Share Posted July 11, 2011 Oh... crap... Well, I dunno. If you don't reply, that might look worse. I think I'd say nah, you're good thanks and leave it at that. I think I really would leave it at that too. She sounds pretty hostile. Link to comment
ferna3069 Posted July 11, 2011 Share Posted July 11, 2011 lleave it at that man, her saying do u need something sounds like her saying why are u bothering me. u made a mistake like most of us do its ok just dont do it agian Link to comment
joswsieg Posted July 11, 2011 Author Share Posted July 11, 2011 I don't want to leave it at that. I want to escalate with humor. Say something funny like.. " Lol Actually, I need a vacation, a million bucks, and some ice cream. How bout we meet for some tasty treats tonight- on me? If she didn't want to talk to me then she WOULD NOT HAVE ANSWERED. Simple as that. If I want nothing to do with someone I just simply don't respond to them. Period. Link to comment
Mellie Posted July 11, 2011 Share Posted July 11, 2011 No. Non. Nein. Achtung. Warning. Warning. Error. ERROR!! Say something funny if you like - NO INVITES. She's pretty clear there - it's hard to miss the message. From hereon in, you need to just save face. Or leave it as it is, just don't make it any worse. Link to comment
joswsieg Posted July 11, 2011 Author Share Posted July 11, 2011 Ok well what if I say something like "Lol actually, I need a million dollars and a new car. Can you help me out? If not then how bout we talk on the phone for a bit?" Link to comment
Brownstone322 Posted July 11, 2011 Share Posted July 11, 2011 Of course she didn't reply promptly. You were warned. Now what're you gonna? You can't really ignore her reply (that'd be impolite). What did you really want? This was a mistake ............... Link to comment
joswsieg Posted July 11, 2011 Author Share Posted July 11, 2011 Of course she didn't reply. You were warned. Lol she did. 6 hours later... read the rest to see the current situation! Link to comment
Mellie Posted July 11, 2011 Share Posted July 11, 2011 Is that, or is that not, an invite? It's your funeral, but I'm 99.99% certain, it won't go down well. Sorry, wrong "B" would go down better, I'm thinking. If you can't trust yourself, leave it alone. Link to comment
Brownstone322 Posted July 11, 2011 Share Posted July 11, 2011 Lol she did. 6 hours later... read the rest to see the current situation! I read it and I added to it. You've still put yourself in a corner, because even if she does want to be civil, I don't think for a second that you can handle the situation. This will probably go from bad to worse, and it will be your fault if it does. Link to comment
browneyedgirl36 Posted July 11, 2011 Share Posted July 11, 2011 No. Non. Nein. Achtung. Warning. Warning. Error. ERROR!! Say something funny if you like - NO INVITES. She's pretty clear there - it's hard to miss the message. From hereon in, you need to just save face. Or leave it as it is, just don't make it any worse. I agree....don't ask her out! Quite frankly, "Do you need something?" is along the lines of "Can I help you?" which is what I say to people trespassing on my property. Ugh. I suspect she's responding to be polite. It would be rude, now that you have initiated the texts, to ignore her, so if you really must text a joke back, you might do that and just say, "No, really, I just wanted to see how you are doing." Even that might be too much, really. Her response wasn't exactly warm. Link to comment
joswsieg Posted July 11, 2011 Author Share Posted July 11, 2011 I'm going to say, "Actually, I need a million bucks, a nice vacation, and a new pair of shoes. Can you help me out? Lol what do you need? Link to comment
browneyedgirl36 Posted July 11, 2011 Share Posted July 11, 2011 I don't want to leave it at that. I want to escalate with humor. Say something funny like.. " Lol Actually, I need a vacation, a million bucks, and some ice cream. How bout we meet for some tasty treats tonight- on me? If she didn't want to talk to me then she WOULD NOT HAVE ANSWERED. Simple as that. If I want nothing to do with someone I just simply don't respond to them. Period.[/QUOTE] This bolded part is you thinking that your situation is *different* than everyone else's. Some people answer simply because the think it would be rude not to, even if they don't really want to. I've responded to people's texts, e-mails, etc. even when I really didn't want to, just to be polite, or to avoid confrontation, or out of guilt at potentially hurting their feelings, or because I didn't want to look like a jerk. Please don't fall into the trap of applying what *you* would do to what everyone else *should* do. People often act in very different ways than we would. Link to comment
Tired Tiger Posted July 11, 2011 Share Posted July 11, 2011 No offense, jos, but this is like watching a car wreck in progress... Link to comment
joswsieg Posted July 11, 2011 Author Share Posted July 11, 2011 The fact that she didn't answer me for an entire month and she does makes me think differently. Link to comment
rigguy Posted July 11, 2011 Share Posted July 11, 2011 Agree with other posters, if you must, text a joke but do yourself a favor and stay away from inviting your ex to a drink/dinner/phone conversation ect. You are setting yourself up.... don't. Link to comment
Mellie Posted July 11, 2011 Share Posted July 11, 2011 ](*,) Don't initiate anything. Don't try to draw her. She doesn't seem up for it at all. I agree with the browneyedgirl. Just wondered how you were. 5 words. Or less. Link to comment
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