soooo confusing...

[dlengquist]

My Gf and me have been together for 6 months or so. Shes really sweet and caring. But she gets down sometimes escpecially the last couple of months. I asked her if it was my fault n she said no, shes was just a little depressed. We have been argueing the last month or so. Then wed we got into a huge fight because she accused me running around on her. I made her get ur stuff n leave. We had been pretty much living with each other. today is sunday so its only been 5 days. Shes been so up and down. On Friday which was 2 days after the breakup she sent me a naked pic of her which i asked for. but since that she wont pick up the fone or text me back. but she did say she missed me and if i had given her space she probably would already be back. Shes really good at ignoring me but when she picks up she does sound mad. She threatened me she might move to another state where her cousin lives. I think shes just really hurt. I should give her space but its so hard cause we spent so much time together. Shes my best friend. We tell each other everything. So Im just asking whats my next step to get her back?

[DN]

Do nothing until she contacts you.

[Unknownxl]

She sounds a little immature and young. I know it may be hard but I suggest not playing her games. She is ignoring you because (it seems) she is enjoying seeing you squirm and she has the power. What you need to do is stop texting and calling. This may be hard but im fairly positive this will get a reaction out of her. She may call and say she is sorry or want to talk about things.

 

I say all of this because I have been there. I was with a girl a few years ago and she would get mad and fly off the handle all the time. I really cared about her but I seriously thought she was bipolar and she knew she had control over me. Because I would call and text like crazy. So one day we got in an argument and she said we were over and not to talk to her again. Then abruptly hung up. This was impulsive and uncalled for so I knew that if she had time to think that she would be calling back. I knew that but it was hard as hell to test the theory as I had never done it before. So I sat down and put in a movie and chatted with my father. Just got my mind off of it and waited. Maybe 4 hours later (i was about to give in and call, but my past experience had shown that when I did that with her she would make me feel like crap more)she called and apologized. She was genuinely sorry, missed me and wanted me to come over. I could here it in her voice that she wasnt lying. After that things were really different. She always had more respect and treated me better. So thats my suggestion to you. Occupy yourself and dont contact her for awhile. She will give you a call at some point.

[dlengquist]

Do u think she will give in? shes 22 and Im 24

[Unknownxl]

Oh yeah im certain she will. If she doesnt then honestly she isnt worth it. She should actually want to talk to you. If for some reason she just never contacted you and went on with life that would completely turn me off. It would mean that she is 100% self centered and does not have the capacity to feel for another human being. I mean think about it.

 

If she just never contacted you would you really want a girl who can just pull 180 on you like that? Yeah it would hurt but you would realize you dont want that in a women you spend your life with.

 

Dont worry though. She WILL come back around at some point. I think if you just left her alone for a day you would probably hear from her. If not then continue to go on with no contact until you do.

[dlengquist]

Thanx for the quick reply. I appreciate it so much.

[Unknownxl]

No problem. Im going through a crap time right now but I do have alot of experience with this stuff myself. I just wish I would have put myself outside of my own situation and I would have known that everything that has happened to me could have been prevented. I hope I have helped you. Keep yourself occupied so you dont slip up.

[dlengquist]

She actually just texted me. she said she missed me but seeing me might confuse things. She said that shes not saying shes done with me but she just wants our problems to go away and its hard cause we r both not right.

[DN]

She actually just texted me. she said she missed me but seeing me might confuse things. She said that shes not saying shes done with me but she just wants our problems to go away and its hard cause we r both not right.

Tell her to contact you when she wants to talk but she has to realise that the longer she takes the harder it will be to fix things and at some point it will be too late as you won't wait forever - as much as you want to be with her you won't just live in limbo.

[Unknownxl]

Yea she needs to know that problems dont fix themselves. You both need to talk about the issues that are going on and be completely honest, but polite, dont argue. And both of you need to take to heart what the other says and make conscious decisions to work on the issues. If she gets all angry let her just say what she needs to say but dont add fuel to the fire. Just be understanding.

[dlengquist]

Actually now tha I think about it she probably wont make me wait too long. she knows I can pull some ass. N shes pretty jealous so it probably wont be long.

[Unknownxl]

Well that can work to your advantage but I suggest you talking about your guys problems and working them out in a sophisticated manner.If your serious about this girl you need to make a real commitment to being friends with her and being honest. Hopefully she will take a cue from you and do the same. It can really breathe some life into the relationship and really make you guys closer and happier. Just be honest and speak about whats on your mind. If your genuine she should open up as well.

[dlengquist]

At this point Im thinking its over. She broke down on the phone yesterday. But later on she texted me that I better not bang anybody. She still has our pics up on facebook and she wont give me back my key to my apartment so I just dont know what to do at this point.