Does She Still Like Me?

[universalsigh]

I was hanging out with this girl I've been seeing recently at her place. I guess you could call it our third date. Before this date we had made out, but nothing further. She invited me to sleep over, which I accepted.

 

That night, all we did was cuddle and sleep until the morning when the cuddling seemed like it was getting more intimate to me. So I kissed her, which led to making out. Then we went out for breakfast (which seemed fine, not awkward or anything) and I left.

 

Since then I feel like she's been kind of distant. Yesterday I asked if she wanted to do something on Sunday (today) and she said she was busy packing (she's moving to a new place nearby), and when I asked about the rest of the week she said it's not a good week because of the move. But she said she would call me when she gets some free time.

 

I know she probably does have a lot to do this week between work and getting ready to move, but I still feel like she might be distancing herself a bit. I'm a little worried it's because I came on too strong when I kissed her, but I mean come on, she invited me to sleep over. Shouldn't something like that be expected?

 

About a week ago she was texting me non-stop with little flirty messages. But that actually stopped last week. Contact became more sparse and more just about planning our next date. And me going over her place was after she rescheduled our date twice during the week. I almost feel like after each date we're getting further apart instead of closer. But this really might be all in my head because in person there's physical contact between us and hand holding, initiated by her a lot.

 

What do you think I should do? Just wait for her to call me, or give her a few days before I call her?

[Ms Darcy]

There was a guy once that I dated who I spent the night with and then distanced myself afterwards. Like your situation, nothing much happened physically. I just learned some things I didn't like. (He hadn't actually finished college like he said he did. He had to sleep with a white noise machine. And worst of all, he was a terrible kisser.)

 

IF and only IF she fizzles out, it's probably not because she was upset that you might have come on too strong. Usually if people distance, it's because they realize some things about the other person that make them incompatible.

 

The best thing you can do is to not put all your hope in this girl. Give her time to figure out if she likes you. Meanwhile, keep dating others.

[universalsigh]

There was a guy once that I dated who I spent the night with and then distanced myself afterwards. Like your situation, nothing much happened physically. I just learned some things I didn't like. (He hadn't actually finished college like he said he did. He had to sleep with a white noise machine. And worst of all, he was a terrible kisser.)

 

IF and only IF she fizzles out, it's probably not because she was upset that you might have come on too strong. Usually if people distance, it's because they realize some things about the other person that make them incompatible.

 

The best thing you can do is to not put all your hope in this girl. Give her time to figure out if she likes you. Meanwhile, keep dating others.

 

Well she told me before the other night that she thought I was a good kisser. And I don't think she saw us as incompatible, I really don't, but maybe it's possible. I just have this sick feeling in my stomach that something I did changed her feeling about me. And I really hate that.

[Ms Darcy]

I'm saying that you may never know what she's feeling - it could be about you or something about her. But either way, you don't know her that well. No need to make yourself sick over it. Keep your options open.

[universalsigh]

So do you think I should just wait and see if she calls me? If she doesn't in a few days I'll probably call her.