How to tell my boyfriend he needs to eat healthier and lose weight

[Dracia]

Hi there,

 

My boyfriend is 24, 6'0'' and lives in CA. He eats take out all the time and has done for a long time since moving to CA. I don't live in America so I'm assuming it's some kind of Californian thing to always get take out o.o

 

But anyway, in the past couple of months or so, he's gained 30 lbs. He was already about 200 lbs before the additional weight gain.

 

Now, I want to put it out there that his weight doesn't turn me off whatsoever. The reason I want him to eat healthier is so he won't develop heart disease, diabetes and what have you.

 

Problem is, he's probably already super self-conscious about it, and then hearing me say "You need to lose weight" will make him very upset. I've never raised an issue with him about it before, for the simple fact that it hasn't been one. I want to tell him I'm worried for his health, but he could still believe he turns me off. He so doesn't!

 

So I'm stuck between letting him continue as he is, or putting my foot down and potentially hurting his feelings. I'm flying out to CA to stay with him for two weeks and it is my first time in the states, so he wants to get me to try all the food he eats. When do I bring up my worries and concerns?

 

I've known him for 8 years and we have only met once, in England where I live. As you can tell, we don't get to see each other very often because of the 5000 mile distance between us, and the fact we were young, didn't have jobs etc. I've only just found a job, which is how I was able to finance our previous meeting and the one happening on Saturday. So naturally, I don't want to turn this special occasion sour by seeming shallow. But as I said before, I also don't want him to die at age 50 from a heart attack.

 

What do I do?

[Crazyaboutdogs]

He is an adult and already knows the ramifications of his eating habits on his health so I don't think it is necessary to say anything. He will change his eating habits when he chooses to do so.

[lavenderdove]

Get a copy of the documentary 'Super Size Me' by Morgan Spurlock. It is a famous and award nominated documentary about someone who went on a fast food diet for a month, eating nothing but fast food, and how unhealthy and sick it made him, to the point his doctor told him he needed to stop because his blood chemistry was showing his body was totally sick and out of whack.

 

Here's a link describing the movie:

 

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I think you should get that DVD and watch it with him, then tell him that you're worried about his health from eating too much fast food (rather than focusing on the weight itself). Spurlock gained 25 lbs during that one month! Fast food is extremely high fat and carb and very little nutrition, so his body is basically starving while being stuffed with fat and carbs which put on unhealthy fats. Seeing that documentary has spurred a lot of people to get off fast foods and start eating better.

[catfeeder]

I don't want to turn this special occasion sour by seeming shallow. But as I said before, I also don't want him to die at age 50 from a heart attack.

 

Say, "I love you, you mean everything to me, and I don't want you die at age 50 from a heart attack. I don't want to ruin our time together, so I'll leave this up to you. Please let me know when we can have a conversation about this."