Is she worth it??? Help

[kolen8701]

I'm dating this girl and we have been dating for a while now(2 1/2 yrs or so), off and on though, we are currently back on, and i really do think i love her "i know i like her alot as a person" but there are somethings i CANT seem to explain about our relationship, I TRUST her but i really don't trust her to some extent(she once cheated on me and that was what causes our break-up the first time but her reason was that i wasn't given her enough attention then). I'm almost NOT proud of her when we are around ppl that knows us "alot ppl tend to know her with her ex when they were dating" except when we outside our immediate environment. We went out recently and we saw a friend, and the friend was asking her about her bf while im sitting beside her, referring to the other guy and that got me thinking seriously.

 

Is it worth it or is it just me??? i need to hear some more thought about this, please help. Thanks in advance.

[guynextdoor]

Tough call man, did you two talk about it and resolved it before getting back together? If not the the trust issue will never go away..

[DieYoung]

There are so many women out there that won't treat you or anyone this way. If she cheated on you within 2 years of dating her simply because you weren't giving her enough attention, what do you think will happen the next time you guys have a problem? If I were with someone for 10 years, married and with kids, then I'd consider working on the relationship after infidelity. If she were a mature person she would have worked things out with you and if that failed, then she should have left you before pursuing other people. She's not worth it, life is too short man. So many better women out there.

[ferna3069]

just ask yourself this whats going to stop her from cheating agian? im not trying to sound harsh but if u dont get enough attention from the one u love u tell them not go ahead and cheat. i never cheated even though i felt like my ex was taking me for granted.i had my chances but never took them because it was wrong. it might be better to let her go

[kolen8701]

Tough call man, did you two talk about it and resolved it before getting back together? If not the the trust issue will never go away..

 

We did talk about it but didn't reach any concrete conclusion to me, she would be like im partly to blame for what happen.

 

So, i should really work on breaking it up with her? if she cheated once does it make it easy to cheat still??? Thanks alot for y'all input.

[NatashaIsJam]

If you don't trust her now, I don't think you ever will. She cheated on you once, what's going to stop her from cheating again ? And to cheat because she wasn't getting enough attention ? A mature person knows that in a relationship there are going to be hard times, a mature person doesn't cheat on the person they're supposed to love at the first sign of hard times. Sorry if I'm being harsh, but it sounds like you deserve better - there are plenty of girls out there who would never cheat on you, no matter what the situation.

[kath]

I don't think it's fair of her to say that you're partly to blame for her cheating. Cheating is something you decide to do, it doesn't exactly happen by accident, and she made that decision. I don't see any way that it can be your fault. Like the others have said, if she felt she wasn't getting enough attention from you, she should've talked about it with you, or if she was still unhappy, she should have ended the relationship, not cheat.