My daughters new glasses are being made fun of

[annony]

My son wears glasses, and they have not been a problem, but he is only two. The older kids treat him as they would any other toddler on the playground and more or less just try not to run him over and don't socialize a whole lot with him.

My daughter is 4. She is an outgoing girly-girl. She has never had any trouble making friends on the playground and looks forward to going to play with other kids, even if she doesn't know them.

She just got her new glasses yesterday, and as per our usual routine, we went to the park. There was a boy there that she had not met before, but this did not intimidate her and she went to go join in on the games.

This boy said he didn't want her to play with the others, he told her her glasses were ugly. He told her she had better just play by herself.

My daughter was crushed. She just stood there in silence with tears running down her face.

I shot a dirty look at the boys mother, as she was watching and doing nothing.

She walked over to MY daughter, not her son, and explained that her son doesn't want her to play with the other kids...

umm * * * ? Why is it ok for her son to exclude my daughter from playing with all the others at the playground because he doesn't like her glasses?

I didn't know what to do, and I was fuming mad, so I gathered up my kids and took them for ice cream.

I'm wishing now that I was able to think of something appropriate to say to the mother.

[agent1607307371]

I don't think there's anything appropriate you could say to her. can't think of anything that's not made up of four letters.

It wasn't the son who excluded your daughter, it was the Mum. He probably learnt that kind of poor behaviour from her.

[lavenderdove]

Oh, another mother with the little prince syndrome... she will let her son run wild, be rotten to other kids, and cater to his every whim. Life has a way of paying mothers like that back, when the kid gets to be a teenager and is absolutely so spoiled they are uncontrollable and turn their wrath and nastiness back onto their parents!

 

The world is full of misguided people, and more than too many obnoxious ones too... I had a next door neighbor just like that woman, and i was soooo glad to move out of that house and get away from that woman. Some people you just need to walk away from and not engage.

 

What you should tell your daugther is that not all kids are nice all the time, and that she is beautiful and you think her glasses are stunning and maybe he was just jealous that she had glasses and he didn't! Then be happy, put a ribbon in your daughter's hair and tell her how beautiful she is. Self esteem is internal, and kids model their behavior after their parents, so if you let it roll off your back and reinforce to your daughhter that she is beautiful and who cares if some obnoxious twit says something rude, then she'll have that healthy attitude too.

[Seraphim]

Gee, I would have had some nice words for her. I think I would have just explained to your daughter that some people are morons and they raise morons and told her she had every right to be in the park. Don't worry about THAT kid because there is always a bigger fish and he will get his butt dusted into the dirt many times. I am sorry for what happened to your daughter. I hope she feels better.

[3fuegos3]

Even if your question was hypothetical, the mother excluding your daughter for her glasses was not O.K.

 

If the kids weren't there, I might've taken a cheap shot, like, "Well, lady, we'll head over to the other playground, and you can't come because you look like you could use a nose job." I wouldn't feel badly about it because with her attitude, we wouldn't be talking again.

[annony]

Even if your question was hypothetical, the mother excluding your daughter for her glasses was not O.K.

 

If the kids weren't there, I might've taken a cheap shot, like, "Well, lady, we'll head over to the other playground, and you can't come because you look like you could use a nose job." I wouldn't feel badly about it because with her attitude, we wouldn't be talking again.

 

no, I will not fight fire with fire. I will not take cheap shots at someone, regardless of how badly they deserve to be taken down a notch (or several)

I want to teach my kids how to take the high road and not stoop down to low levels.