Baby Showers?

[petite]

Whilst everyone has a right to make their own decision I draw the line at those who are unable to provide their children simple necessities - and in turn require baby showers so that others can contribute to the child.

In my culture it's actually considered tempting fate so baby showers are not common. People usually give gifts after the baby is born because they choose to or at Baptism. We're not having a bridal shower and I've made it clear to my family hopefully when we have kids no baby showers. I'm the type that doesn't like people providing me with things that are my responsibility to purchase.

[lostnscared]

Whilst everyone has a right to make their own decision I draw the line at those who are unable to provide their children simple necessities - and in turn require baby showers so that others can contribute to the child.

In my culture it's actually considered tempting fate so baby showers are not common. People usually give gifts after the baby is born because they choose to or at Baptism. We're not having a bridal shower and I've made it clear to my family hopefully when we have kids no baby showers. I'm the type that doesn't like people providing me with things that are my responsibility to purchase.

 

I feel the same way. I think that if you can't even buy a baby diapers, and basic "items" then you probably don't need to be having the baby in the first place. Unfortunately she made the decision to keep the baby, because morally "abortion" is against her beliefs, but she is counting on others(including taxpayers) to take care of it for her.

 

I don't know how common babyshowers are anymore. Like I said, I wasn't even planning on having one. But I know several other girls that are pregnant right now, like me, that have had babyshowers. My mom only had one babyshower with all four of her kids, and it was one thrown by my grandma.

I had a lot of fun at my babyshower, and had a great time, but I don't know that I'd do it again. For me the gifts weren't needed--since most of the items my bf and I can get, and I have family helping, but I do admit that I started getting greedy once I realized that I could get more. For me what makes me feel like having the babyshower BEFORE the babies are born wasn't good for me was simply because I started getting greedy. Especially when I went into babies r us and used the scanner to put items on my registry. Before then I didn't care what I got, just wanted it to be a fun shower. But not everyone gets greedy like me.

 

Also, like others have said, I don't think many people get things off of their baby registry or necessarily get all that they want. I got nothing off my baby registry, but found that I had such a fun time at the babyshower that I just didn't care. By the time I was ready to open gifts, it was sort of like "bleh"--like I just didn't care anymore about what I got. I think if I were counting on getting "certain items" or truly needed them I would have disappointed. I don't think babyshowers for the most part should be meant to "cover" everything you need for the baby, but more so just "adding" to what you already have and so on.

I am concerned that my friend is relying to much on her babyshower to get items, but again it's sort of expected because she needs stuff.

[lostnscared]

Yep. Earlier this year I believe there were a lot of cribs recalled.

I mean I think it's naive to think that with each child you won't have to buy some "stuff" again, but some things can be used over and over again: clothes, toys, etc. In my friends case, I think it was actually very generous for her to give away her items to help others who needed them. I don't think she intended to continue getting pregnant, and didn't think she would be pregnant again this year, so didn't think to keep baby girl clothes from 4 years ago. On the other hand relying solely on others to help her with diapers, clothes, and big ticket items(a swing, rocker, playard, stroller, and carseats) is concerning... I think babyshowers can turn into a "gift giving party" in cases where people need the gifts. For my friend her intention is definitely not to celebrate the baby but to get what she needs. I don't necessarily blame her(you have to do what you to do) but I do think that it does reflect that a lot of people--including myself--probably don't realize the true meaning of babyshowers. I too just thought they were gift-giving sessions until I had my own.

[itstrott4u18]

i really like the custom of presenting a gift on the occasion of baby shower ...i also dislike the presenting the money on this event because money will be loss any time but a gift goes for a long time and it is memorable for the people beings...